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Black Pearls February 2010

Join us as we celebrate Strong Families, Black History Month and the spectacular Sankofa Literary Society's  3rd Annual Online Book Fair.  Even though Black History Month focuses on the growth of African-Americans, it is important for all races to see the value within the month and throughout the year. At Black Pearls Magazine published, by EDC Creations, we honor all of the people in our society that have made positive changes in the lives of others with the written word.   It's important for us all to celebrate that Black History Month is full of the many accomplishments displaying our literature,  intellect, passions and talents.  Even though we celebrate February as Black History Month, it is important to know that African-American history took place every day of the year and will continue to take place 365 days a year.  This entire issue shines the spotlight on the history makers of today!  

Look inside Black Pearls Magazine. BPM is a free digital magazine committed to inspire, encourage and empower a international group of readers. Our mission is to provide information that is essential, enlightening and entertaining.  We believe in Giving the Gift of Knowledge!  Explore the wonderful array of articles, poetry, exclusive interviews and soul stirring books by entering the main salon of the magazine here.  Share this spirit filled issue with at least 10 friends and co-workers.  Check out the contest page to possibly win a great book!

Here are a few community articles and interviews to get you started today.


Enter the main salon of Black Pearls Magazine
For My Sisters

Infidelity by Erica Williams
Can A Sistah Get Some Love
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Believe Again in 2010!

Marriage and Lifestyles
How to Have Casual Sex Responsibly 
Dealing With Infidelity - To Pardon Or Not 
Tiger's  Scarlett Letter 


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These Boots are Made for Stalking
  
Fashion Mantra For Plus Size Women
Living Above the Chaos  

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Conversation with Gloria Mallette

Conversation with Dolen Perkins-Valdez
Conversation with Susan Mary Malone
Man-Up: A Plan for  Retooling of Black America 

Motivation
Ty Webbin Christian Author Tours
Heart & Soul Conversations
Bookclub Member Showcase

 


2010 New Year, New You! 


A PURSE OF YOUR OWN by Wealth Coach Deborah Owens

You’ve seen her, know her, and might even be her! The woman with the “counterfeit purse.”  That’s the term for the symbolic bag that some of us may carry.  Those who might dress fashionably and drive a nice car but have nothing of real value. Many women are smart enough to know that they should put their hard-earned money to work for them.  However, most are too overwhelmed, bored or intimidated by the particulars of stocks, bonds and mutual funds to be proactive.  

In A PURSE OF YOUR OWN: An Easy Guide to Financial Security (ISBN: 9781416570813; $15.00), Wealth Coach Deborah Owens shares how women can use what they know about fashion, dieting and romance to take charge of their finances. This book offers respite to women who are tired of “renting” a wealthy lifestyle with credit cards and are ready to utilize their unique strengths to build wealth-a la Oprah and J.K Rowling.  In this straight-forward and easy to understand financial guide, women learn how to increase their PQ or Purse Quotient and learn the principles to becoming financially fit in any economy.  

The purse is a reflection of a woman’s economic power and Owens insists that in order to fill up a purse, women must adopt wealthy habits that put them on the path to fiscal independence and a financial identity. These are the behaviors that Deborah observed in financially successful women throughout her more than twenty years in financial services.  She is a former financial advisor and was a vice president at Fidelity Investments.  A PURSE OF YOUR OWN shares examples of women practicing The 7 Wealthy Habits,” which include: 1. A Wealthy Outlook 2. A Wealthy Appetite 3. A Wealthy Vision 4. A Wealthy Mindset 5. A Wealthy Legacy 6. A Wealthy System and 7. A Wealthy Focus. A PURSE OF YOUR OWN provides a distinctly feminine financial perspective.  

By adopting these habits, Owens was able to fill her own purse. As an author, radio talk show host and TV wealth coach she now shares her successful strategies with others.  Each chapter of A PURSE OF YOUR OWN focuses on one of these principles and discusses how to acquire and then apply the wealthy habits.  In this easy to follow financial guide, Owens covers the basics and intersperses stories from real women who have used the 7 Wealthy Habits and achieved their own success. Owens empowers women to discover their own Purse-onality, and use their female intuition to take control of their finances and create financial security in their lives. In addition, A PURSE OF YOUR OWN includes helpful quizzes and exercises and offers a free online supplement. [Read More]  

 A PURSE OF YOUR OWN implements clear cut strategies to build and add wealth to your purse wealth to maintain financial security. For more information on A PURSE OF YOUR OWN please visit: www.deborahowens.com   and  www.simonandschuster.com.

 


 

Attention: Bookclubs and Women Networkers

Help your members clean out their purses and get a fresh start in 2010!  EMPOWER your book club and START A PURSE GROUP!

Author and Wealth Coach Deborah Owens is on a mission to empower ONE MILLION WOMEN and she would like for your book club to be on board.  In her new book,  A Purse of Your Own, Deborah shares how you can start a "Purse Group" for support and accountability.

Join the Power of the Purse Community receive a free download of Chapter 10 of A Purse of Your Own, and get instructions on how you can start your own Purse Group. Register at here and you will receive updates on the Power of the Purse Campaign and announcements for additional promotional offerings and events. Offer expires:  February 10, 2010. 
 
JOIN THE MISSION TO ENGAGE, ENLIGHTEN AND EMPOWER 1 MILLION WOMEN ACROSS AMERICA TO CREATE A PURSE OF THEIR OWN!

 


2010 New Year's Resolutions for African American Women

by author Hazel Mills

When people talk about making resolutions for the new year, it usually involves quitting or losing something or someone. For example, millions of people will resolve to quit smoking and twice as many more will promise to lose weight. Beginning the new year, we will be saturated with television and print ad campaigns for gym memberships, weight loss program and equipment deals as well as products to help with nicotine addiction. 

Although these changes in lifestyle are great and for some, can mean the difference between life or death, there are so many other things that we, as African American women, can do to make our lives more healthy, positive and meaningful in 2010.


1. Resolve to spend more time with God. This should be non-negotiable and always first on everyone's to-do list for the new year. He has created so many beautiful and magnificent things, including you. Resolve to attend church or bible study more often than you do now. Make time in your busy day just to say a quiet "thank you".

2. Resolve to ditch the drama. I can't say enough about this one. The stress of living a drama-filled life can affect your mental and physical health. Find ways to get rid of your own and to avoid getting pulled into the madness of others around you. This is much more challenging to accomplish around the holidays.

3. Resolve to take control of your health. On the morning of January 1 and the rest of the year, ask yourself the following vital questions: What is my HIV status? What are my cholesterol numbers? When was my last pap smear and/or mammogram? When did I last see a dentist? If you can't answer these questions definitively, on January 2nd, call your doctor(s) and make an appointment.

4. Resolve not to starve your savings account. 2009 has been a year of economic hell and we have all cut back on rewarding ourselves with luxuries like new cars and vacations. Some may have dipped into the piggy bank just to make ends meet. In 2010, try to make a point to put a little something away from each paycheck. It doesn't have to be much. Pennies add up to dollars.

5. Resolve to be more generous. I am not talking about money here. Your time is more valuable than your dollars. Volunteer to read to hospitalized children, to serve food at a local women's shelter or build a home with Habitat For Humanity. The warm fuzzy feeling you'll get from knowing you helped someone else will be worth more than rubies.

6. Resolve to learn something new. The new year is a great time to create new adventures by learning to do something new. Check out your local community college for course selections. Many classes are available in the evening. You can learn all sorts of interesting things like how to play golf, speak a new language, play a mean game of chess, tune-up your car's engine or countless other hobbies. When we stop learning, we stop growing.

7. Resolve to re-unite with an old friend or relative this year. Invite your room-mate from your college days out for dinner and some catching up or call and chat with a cousin whom you haven't seen since the last family reunion years ago. Sharing a laugh always lifts the spirits. But when planning a reunion, remember to heed number 2 on this list.

8. Resolve to be more informed about social and political issues. We all could use a nudge in this department. Celebrity gossip rules the talk show circuit and magazines covers but how well do you know the political climate of your own city? Let's resolve to spend time expanding our minds this year about what is going on in our world and with those we have elected to represent our interests in government.

9.Resolve to take yourself on vacation. Getting away on a shopping excursion with the girls is therapeutic and relaxing on a tropical beach with your significant other is wonderful. But why not take the concept of "me time" to a whole new level by treating yourself to a weekend at the spa? Treat yourself to a one night stay at a beautiful hotel across town. No phones, no text messages, no emails. You can't take care of others if you don't first take care of yourself.

10. Resolve to speak the truth in love. Hard but necessary. People don't always want to hear or accept the truth. Lies make life so much harder than it has to be. If you tell the truth with sugar rather than with salt, it is usually a littler easier for the other person to swallow. They may not agree with you but you don't need a fan club. Respect, from others and for yourself is the goal.

This list is a great place to begin to think about your life and the direction in which you want to go in 2010. Empower yourself to be a better person than you were in 2009. There is always room for improvement and you don't have to wait until the new year to make a change. Today is a good day.
Website: www.hazelmillsstories.com 

Copyright 2010 written by author Hazel Mills 


Black History Month Memoir: Honoring Marie Johnson Brown
For My Mother (Who Should Have Been a History Teacher)
By Niambi Davis

"I should have been a history teacher."  It was my mother's mantra, especially during Black History Month. She was however, a home economics teacher, but African-American history was her passion. I'll never forget the February she decided that our county library was the perfect place to share that love and spread some knowledge.

First, a little background on Marie Johnson Brown. She was born in 1915, a "late", therefore only child to her 55-year old father and 44-year old mother. Her love of history began as a "Daddy's girl." My grandparents owned a farm they called Mt. Pleasant, and while following her father around on his chores, she heard stories about "Hat" (Harriett Tubman), Frederick Douglass and the Quaker who would bind his horse's hooves with burlap to ferry slaves across the Maryland/Pennsylvania border at night. According to my grandfather's tale, this man could be heard whistling on his way back in the early morning hours. (Each time we traveled to our family reunion at the "home place" she would point out the spot where his journey was said to have begun).

In 1937 my mother came by train to teach at Kennard High School in Centreville, Maryland. While she taught science and home economics at the school built to serve Queen Anne's County's African-American students, my mother collected almost every article she could find about the achievement of local African-Americans. She collected high school yearbooks, graduation programs, lesson plans, prom, graduation and sports team pictures. She was passionate about the school where her teaching career began, and until she passed away, determined to keep its legacy alive.

My mother was a well known, minor hoarder. We laughed at her reluctance to throw away anything - folded up newspaper crosswords, recipes, the Soap Opera Digest, and greeting cards stretching back to the Year One. If there was an article written about championship games of the Baltimore Colts or Orioles, my mother owned it. If anybody in the family needed a childhood picture from when they were toothless or in pigtails, they would "ask Aunt Marie."

There was, however, a bonus to her compulsion - she also owned invaluable pieces of history - a 19th century graduation program from Howard University, photos from mid-20th century life on an HBCU campus, an early 1900's course catalog from Hampton, the program from a 1935 recital of the great Roland Hayes, I don't how she came to own it, but among her collection was the 1930's ledger from a local church, listing members as well as "backsliders." One of her most prized possessions was a letter to her parents from their attorney Thurgood Marshall.

One February, my mother decided that more exposure was necessary for local African American history. By then she was in her 80s, and although she had suffered three strokes, still had enough of her mind to put this project together. She put in a call to the county library. When they agreed to host the exhibit, she and I went to work. From her many file folders, and boxes of articles and pictures, she chose items of local interest - segregation-era black businesses, the story of a World War veteran, an honor given to a long-time municipal employee, and of course, her beloved Kennard. There were pictures of the original, "old" Kennard High School (which became Kennard Elementary) and the "new" Kennard, built just across the street.

She chose the pictures and articles. She wrote the captions. I typed the text and mounted each item. When the display was done to her satisfaction, I took it to the library, along with the sculpture of a proud Buffalo Soldier in full uniform. It was placed where anyone entering could enjoy her efforts. That month, to her great satisfaction, she was interviewed by a local reporter. If my mother had her way, the call could have gone for hours, turning into an impromptu Introduction to African American History.

I have inherited those boxes, file folders and photos, all in need of 21st century preservation. Some are even worthy of donation to a museum dedicated to African-American history and culture. Whenever I pull out an old photo or document from a time gone by, I'm reminded of her straight-ahead, unwavering dedication. Well done, Miss Marie.

About the Author
Niambi Brown Davis was born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and raised on the Eastern Shore of Maryland. She and her family lived for many years in Washington, DC and for three and a half years, made the Republic of Trinidad & Tobago their home. Read more here.

She has written for Bronze Thrills, True Confessions and Black Romance Magazines. Niambi indulged her passion for sailing and travel by serving as publicist for the Black Boaters Summit and as a member of the National Association of Black Travel Writers. A script for her first digital novella has been accepted and published by Arrow Publications, LLC. Presently, Niambi writes for Travel Lady Magazine. Aside from travel and writing, Niambi is an avid reader of historical fiction, and deeply involved in tracing the history of both branches of her family tree. Her day job is running the business of Sand & Silk / Soleful Strut, her own line of handcrafted bath and body products.



Change: Our Future or Our Past? 
by Nanette M. Buchanan

The first year with a Black President, has arrived amongst mixed reactions. Barack H. Obama is the 44th President of the United States. Most Americans celebrate what has become the most significant event in Black History, American History, yet some of our doubts have begun to surface.  What will the President do?  How much can he accomplish?  Will he favor blacks more than whites?  Will he become another political puppet for the system?

These questions were thought but not spoken, except behind closed doors immediately after the election.  We, those of us who sincerely sought a change, had no doubt that President Barrack Obama was the obvious choice.  There was no doubt that a Black man could do the job that no other dared to do.  There was no doubt that White America no longer trusted their own.  The day is now upon us and some of those same marchers, campaigners, Democrats, converted Republicans, and voters have questions; still doubt.....

Our past, for those of us who truly know our history was filled with doubt.  There was the doubt that we would ever be more than slaves…….the doubt that we would ever read, write, become educated, or cast a vote…….the doubt that we would ever have justice, equal rights…….the doubt that we would ever become Astronauts, Physicians, Scientist, Lawyers, Judges….the doubt that a African American citizen would ever sit in the White House as the President…..but it has been done!   

What were the questions in our past?  Could Harriet Tubman be serious about the Underground Railroad…..Who thought that Booker T. Washington would pioneer higher education?  Who questioned the inventions of George Washington Carver….Who questioned Dr. Martin Luther King,  Malcom X….Walter White....James Farmer....Johnny Cochran…Who questioned the pioneers….Jackie Robinson…..Joe Louis….Louis Armstrong…..Mary Frances Berry....Oprah Winfrey....Who questioned Dr. Mae Jemison who went from teaching to the moon….Who questioned Muhammad Ali who fought in the ring and refused to fight the war….  

What were our doubts when millions marched in Selma, Birmingham, Montgomery, Washington, D.C. and fought against segregation never questioning our leadership?  

If we truly believe in President Barack Obama and his choice in his cabinet and advisors, our past must give light to our future.  We’ve come this far by Faith, make no mistake about it.  God is with our Black President as He has been with all of our pioneers.  It is by Faith that they took the steps necessary to lead us through the valley.  ....

God is with our President and it is our faith in God and our trust in Barack Obama that will carry us onward.  Here’s to four more years of progress and undeniable change!

Check out a list of African American firsts here.

Written by Nanette M. Buchanan
Website: www.ipendesigns.net        
Myspace: www.myspace.com/ipendesigns

 


Better Career Strategies
How Blacks Can Overachieve during the 2010 Economic Crisis 
by Dr. Daryl Green
 

On Monday morning, an employee tries to open her office door to find that her key does not fit. She waits for her secretary to arrive and provide her with a duplicate key. The secretary does not arrive. Finally, her boss arrives and brings the employee her pink slip. She stands in disbelief; she has been downsized.

Introduction
Are you fed up with your current job? The rapid pace of globalization makes it difficult for anyone to be secure. Given this reality, can you afford to be content with someone else entrusted with my future career options? As I conducted research for Breaking Organizational Ties: How to Have a More Fulfilled Life in Your Current Job, I heard numerous complaints about bad bosses and uncaring organizations. 

Although today’s job represents an uninspiring journey at work, rarely is a person willing to do something different. Many people become unhappy in their lives because they work in awful conditions. However, you can find a way to be compensated for your talents even if that means changing your environment or leaving it. This article examines how an individual can gain greater confidence in his or her ability to grow by exploring alternative strategies, even in the midst of downsizing and layoffs.


Economic Crisis
Economic troubles continue to presence a challenge to our economic future. America has lost 7.2 million jobs with the unemployment rate topping 10% since November 2009. This situation has been very problematic for black community. The unemployment rate for blacks is over 15%, with more than one in four being out of work. Companies have shed 11,000 workers from their payroll. State agencies have had to layoff or furlough workers. Millions of Americans are now waiting longer for food stamps, unemployment checks, and disability payments. Margaret Simms of the Urban Institute notes, “The length of the recession clearly has put a strain on the resources that states bring to bear.” Therefore, our lives continue to unravel as things we depend on disintegrate before our eyes. 


Career Strategy
An economic crisis and an uncertain future require individuals to explore new personal strategies. For many people, happiness means more than having a job. According to a Yankelovich Monitor’s study in 1997, only 25% of adults said “a lot of money” signified success and accomplishment. Unfortunately, many individuals work in organizations that don’t stimulate their professional growth. 

In my own situation, I’ve kept my primary job but created my own business venture. This decision started my professional development and gave me a competitive edge in the market. 
It doesn’t necessarily mean giving up your current job. However, it does involve a different mental journey. Marsha Sinetar, author of Do What You Love, The Money Will Follow, argues that individuals rarely take the time for introspection: “Most of us think about our jobs or our careers as a means to fulfill responsibilities to families and creditors, to gain more material comforts, and to achieve status and recognition. But we pay a high price for this kind of thinking.” 

Therefore, you may need to change directions. These steps include the following: (a) take a personal assessment of your current work situation; (b) determine your primary focus; (c) prepare a plan for professional development at your job; (d) decide what you need to do in order to obtain your dream job; (e) weigh the consequences of changing directions; and (f) surround yourself with a positive support system.


Conclusion
Many individuals are rethinking their career situations during this economic crisis. Blacks are not the exception. I see a sense of despair encompassing them. Yet, most people don’t know how to get out of this vicious cycle of hopelessness. Individuals should continue to sharpen their skills and never let anyone else decide their future. It appears that few managers are concerned about employee career development. 

Therefore, I caution you not to get too comfortable in your jobs while the rest of the nation is going through unprecedented change. This article demonstrated that you can mobilize yourself and take control of your own situation. In fact, it’s a critical step in achieving personal fulfillment and acquiring future wealth. Through this process, you will gain the insight to develop and enhance your skills while pursuing your personal goals and dreams.


About the Columnist
Dr. Daryl Green provides motivation, guidance, and training for leaders at critical ages and stages of their development. He has over 20 years of management experience and has been noted and quoted by USA Today, Ebony Magazine, and Associated Press. For more information, you can go to http://stores.lulu.com/darygre  or http://www.darylgreen.org  


 


Rock-solid Answers to the Black Marriage Questions

by Dr. Harold L. Arnold, Jr.  

Marriage in the Black community has become an enigma—filled with too many questions and too few answers. Once a clearly valued staple of Black family life, research reveals marital erosion. In the fall of 2009, scholars from the Institute for American Values in conjunction with the National Center for African American Marriage and Parenting validated a precipitous decline in Black marriages since the 1970’s.  

Though this decline belies any simplistic explanation, we as a community benefit as we seek answers to two questions posed by two influential African Americans, Congresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton and film icon Tyler Perry. Though Norton and Perry hail from widely different platforms, they have each used their influence to submit an important question into the public square that highlights the Black marriage dilemma. What has happened to marriage in the Black community?  

In September 2009, Congresswoman Eleanor Holmes Norton’s Congressional Black Caucus Foundation hosted a forum “Single Women, Unmarried Men: What has happened to marriage in the Black community” to a jam-packed room. This forum candidly engaged the crisis. More than half of all Black adults are unmarried compared to less than 40% of Whites and Hispanics. Since the 1970’s, the Black community has seen its number of children born to single moms more than double, rising from 30 to 70 percent. Children in single-mother households are significantly more likely to live in poverty and to have emotional and behavioral problems.  

Norton’s question centers on the social maladies created by the proliferation of single mothers, teenage parenting, and fatherlessness that have become the norm in many Black communities. Underneath this question is a challenge to the decisions that too many African Americans are making to forgo a long-term marriage partnership for short-term encounters.

Our second question courtesy of Tyler Perry takes a different aim—married African American couples who are second-guessing their decision for this long-term commitment.

Why did I get married?  
In 2010 Tyler Perry releases his new movie, Why did I get married too, the sequel to his successful 2007 comedy-drama, Why did I get married. For some of us the first movie brought comic relief to serious marital stressors that are often at the center of our marital conflict. For others the film was a darker reminder of abuses that have left marital scars. This movie caused many of us to think personally about our own reason for marriage.  

Perry’s question highlights the lack of fulfillment that many Black couples experience. It speaks to the frustration and disappointment of many couples that feel their marriages have not delivered the “promised” emotional, physical, and economic benefits. Both Norton and Perry present questions deserving meaningful consideration and comprehensive answers if the Black community’s social, economic, and spiritual capital is to rise.

ROCK-solid answers
My book, Marriage ROCKS for Christian Couples, offers a framework to reverse the Black marriage trend by challenging couples at all levels of relational intimacy to discover God’s purpose for their marriages. Black relationships with a shared sense of purpose tend to understand that marriage offers a long-term commitment to their emotional, sexual, financial, and spiritual aspirations. The Marriage ROCKS model posits a five-step response.

Step 1: Redeem one another through graceful acts (Redemption)
What are the emotional wounds in your marriage? In some cases these wounds manifest as emotional scabs—leftover reminders from past abuses. In other instances, they are fresh sores hindering the development of healthy relationships.

Black couples often struggle with positive emotional engagement because of external stressors like joblessness and educational inequalities that impinge on the marriage. However, internal stressors such as power imbalances, infidelity, and disrespect also trap many Black couples. Black relationships need healing that can only be found through redemption. Redemption promises hope that we can learn to identify our own faults and sacrifice ourselves for our spouses in ways that honor the sacrifice that Christ made for us. 
 
Step 2: Offer intimacy by spending time together (Offering)
Black marriages are time-starved. With our myriad of obligations couples fail to adequately attend to our most intimate relationships. God has actually wired us for intimacy. It should not surprise us then that time-starved marriages lack this intimacy, primarily because there is a shortage of spiritual, emotional, and physical sharing. Sharing conveys priority. Because you choose what to do with your time, you make a statement about your marital relationship when you prioritize it over other activities. Starting today, reserve your time for just the two of you.

Step 3: Develop healthy boundaries (Covenant)
The flexibility of the Black family structure has a rich history; the term family is not simply a matter of bloodlines. Perhaps more than any other American subculture, the Black family has adapted to injustices by contracting and expanding as necessary to survive as a community. While this structure is clearly a strength, it often poses marital challenges.

Many of our marriages rely on overly rigid boundaries that feel controlling and isolating while others express loose boundaries that lead to undue outside influences and infidelity. Any kind of unhealthy boundary makes it difficult for your marriage to achieve its purpose because such boundaries are contradictory to the concept of mutuality.

The key to defining healthy boundaries in your marriage is for each spouse to value the perspective and strength that each brings to the relationship. It requires a level of comfort with oneself and trust in one’s spouse that you are both working towards a future shared goal. Healthy boundaries are permeable and purpose-laden.

Step 4: Share your experience with others (Knowledge)
 
Media pundits and narcissistic celebrities distort an ideal view of marriage, typically lacking a faith narrative and highly self-centered. However, God desires that your marriage be a light that directs others to him. Your positive and negative marital experiences have the power to change lives when you give them away to others.

Your testimonies are a fountain of knowledge, especially for your children. Many Christian parents frustrate the faith development of their children errantly believing that they should shield them from their marital struggles. You give your children an astonishing gift of knowledge, not by being models of perfection, but by being living memorials to redemption. Of course, this narrative does not only benefit your children. It impacts our culture at large.

Step 5: Mobilize your marriage as a ministry (Sacred Space)
As a faith-based model Marriage ROCKS is ultimately about ministry. Husbands and wives are ministers to each other first, understanding each other, forgiving one another, and elevating to new levels of intimacy in their pursuit of partnership and covenant. God desires to open your spiritual eyes to a world in which your marriage is a living temple, ushering the sacred into all of the spaces that you traverse—fostering communities of relational belonging with the power to heal and transform.

There are no easy answers to the Black marriage questions. We do know, however, that solutions must be redemptive in healing our wounds, revealing the avenues to intimacy, educating us about healthy boundaries, and encouraging us to share our testimonies in the pursuit of God’s purpose.

Meet Dr. Harold L. Arnold, Jr.
Dr. Harold L. Arnold, Jr., www.haroldarnold.com, author of Marriage ROCKS for Christian Couples and founder of Discovering Family International, is a psychologist specializing in Black family life. He holds a Masters degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. A member of the American Association of Christian Counselors, Dr. Arnold serves as adjunct faculty, minister, and counselor in Philadelphia.

 


 

Believe Again in 2010!

A video clip aired recently on ABC Nightline stating that 70% of black women are single and that there are over 1.8 million more black women than black men.  It also reports 42% of black women have never been married, and that a large number of them will remain single as there are currently 12 women to every 1 black male.

Upon first reading that report it's easy to feel disheartened and get in a funk.  However, we must remember that based on the billions of people in the world, as you believe God for a mate, remember - You only need one.  Also, I want to submit to you, to counteract their report - "Whose report, will you believe?"

Sometimes when you've been single for so long you begin to get comfortable in your singleness. 

I remember speaking to a wonderful woman of God who was in her early forties and still single saying, "I've just given up."  I was crushed listening to her words because, to me, she was not only giving up on ever being married, but she was also giving up on the one thing that we, as believers, should never, under any circumstances, give up on - and that's hope.

But if we hope for that we see not, then do we with patience wait for it.  Romans 8:25

It's quite alright to desire marriage, and it's even okay to believe it can happen for you.  However, you don't want your desire to turn into an anxious care (Philippians 4:6), or even a want. 


The Word of God reminds us in Psalm 23:1, The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want.

The word, "want," in this passage of Scripture means, "to fail, want, lessen, (have) lack, make lower, want."  In other words, it indicates that something is missing in one's life, however with God on your side you already have every thing you could ever need. 


Instead of "wanting" a mate, I submit to you that you instead, "expect" a mate. 

Expect God's promise to come to pass in His season for your life since He promised to give you the desire of your heart in Psalm 37:4 as you continue to delight in Him.  A lot of times, if you're seeking the face of God and in His presence in prayer consistently, then it's He who put the desire for marriage in your heart in the first place. 

Expect God to be true to His Word and see yourself that blushing bride on your wedding day, and even, see yourself, now, as that virtuous woman and loving wife who is a crown to her husband who will do him good and not evil all the days of his life (Proverbs 12:4, Proverbs 31:12). 

Envision and become her now, as you believe God for a mate, and in the meantime become the best you today and use this year to really focus on what God has called you to do and get to know your Heavenly Father even more this year through prayer, praise and worship, and service to Him and His people. 

Become as much like Jesus as you can this year - no, not so you can snag a man, but so that God will be pleased with you and so your life will be fulfilled.


Don't be hopeless, don't give up on hope
- again remain hopeful and stay in a state of expectation that God will do what He said He would do in due season as you really trust, depend on, and rely on Him. 

Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)  -Hebrews 10:23

In 2010, it's time to believe again!

 

Written by Kim Brooks in the The Single Heart eNewsletter
Kim Brooks, author of upcoming book, How To Date and Stay Saved and Black Expressions Bestseller, He's Fine...But is He Saved?  and highly acclaim non-fiction debut for singles, "The Little Black Survival Book for Single Saints."  Website: kimontheweb.com

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Intimate Conversation with Connie May Fowler

New York Times bestselling writer Connie May Fowler is an essayist, screenwriter, and novelist. She is the author of five novels, most recently The Problem with Murmur Lee, and a memoir, When Katie Wakes. In 1996, she published Before Women Had Wings, which became a paperback bestseller and was made into a successful Oprah Winfrey Presents movie. She founded the Connie May Fowler Women With Wings Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to aiding women and children in need. Connie lives in Florida.

Ella: What specific situation or revelation prompted you to write your new book, How Clarissa Burden Learned to Fly?
I was reading up on pre-Civil war Florida history and discovered that when Florida was a Spanish territory, women could be property owners and slavery was outlawed. But Spain and the United States signed an agreement that would change all of that. The Florida Purchase Treaty of 1819 guaranteed that the United States would lay claim to Florida in 1821. With a stroke of a pen and strike of a clock, suddenly all women and blacks would have their rights stripped away. That haunted me and I walked around with that kernel in my head for a few years before I sat down to write the novel, which takes place in 2006 but is populated with ghosts. 

Ella: Take us inside the book. What are two major events taking place?
The book tracks a day in the life of Clarissa Burden, a woman who wakes on the Summer Solstice with the knowledge that her life must change because she is wracked with spousal death scenarios and writer’s block. Concurrent with her story is that of Olga Villada. Villada and her family are ghosts, their souls unable to move on from the place where they were brutally murdered. Their stories converge, resulting in a startling and life-changing chain of events.

Ella: Who do you want to reach with your book, How Clarissa Burden Learned to Fly, and the message within?
I think this book will have a broad appeal. The book, at its core, is about freedom—individual and universal—and it’s wrapped up in a story that is both comedic and dramatic. I think readers of many ages and races will identify with the struggles of Clarissa Burden and Olga Villada.

Ella: How will reading your book shape the readers lives?
One, I hope it will make readers laugh even amid a few tears. But if there is one message I want readers to gain, it’s that how easy it is for the course of history—the course of one person’s individual day—to go suddenly very, very wrong. There are bad people in this world—sometimes bad people have all the trappings of kindness—and they are capable of terrible things. So we have to be vigilant for ourselves and for one another. Casual prejudices and ordinary meanness can, in the blink of an eye, become lethal. So we have to learn to be pro-actively kind and relentless protective of our rights.

Ella: What are some of their specific issues, needs or problems addressed in this book?
Women’s issues, race, personal empowerment, marital relations, Florida history.

Ella: What was the most powerful chapter in, How Clarissa Burden Learned to Fly?
I think that once Clarissa decides—in a fit of rage—to kill her husband, this book takes a major turn and all the chapters that follow are highly entertaining, shocking, and ultimately satisfying.

Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
I recently wrote a story for Slate’s online women’s site DoubleX about how the Haitian earthquake has severely impacted their women’s movement. How Clarissa Burden Learns to Fly will be in stores April 2, 2010.

Ella: How can our readers reach you online? Share with us your online contact info.
My website is www.conniemayfowler.com.  I blog at http://blog.conniemayfowler.com/ Readers can also follow me on Twitter and friend me on Facebook, where I’m very active.  There is also a Facebook fan page for How Clarissa Burden Learned to Fly.  In March, in honor of Clarissa and those pesky spousal death scenarios that haunt her, I am launching the Clarissa Burden Postcard Project in which I will be asking readers to anonymously send me one secret they cannot tell their spouse or partner.  The secrets can be silly or serious, and will be posted on my website.


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ISBN-10: 0446540684 | ISBN-13: 978-0446540681 




 

Good Fortune by Noni Carter

What would happen if…
•Black history—including the scarring reality of the slavery—were a point of pride and legacy for today’s black youth?

•More youth saw themselves through the lens of the perseverance and triumphs of their ancestors?

•People of all shades and sizes realized the value and impact of African Americans’ contributions to the U.S. legacy?

If all of these things were true, would today’s youth, and the nation as a whole, experience more Good Fortune?



Introduction to Good Fortune by Noni Carter


A stirring debut novel from a young talent, Good Fortune traces one girl's journey from slavery to liberation -- and how she finds her true self along the way.

Good Fortune is an inspiring story of an African-American slave woman in the early 19th century. Brutally kidnapped from her African village and shipped to America, Ayanna Bahati struggles to come to terms with her new life as a slave. Rising from the cotton fields to her master’s house, Ayanna is threatened by the increasingly dangerous world of the plantation. Risking everything, she escapes and makes her way north to freedom and an education, but can she shed the chains of her harrowing past to live the life she has longed for? She struggles with the concept of emancipation verses freedom, praying for miracles to manifest in her life, and finally understanding the importance of her homeland, engrained into her soul through her name: BAHATI, or Good Fortune.

A stirring debut novel from a young talent, Good Fortune traces one girls’ journey from slavery to liberation, and details how she finds her true self along the way. Through this account of Ayanna’s journey through slavery; through her dreams of honest freedom; through her aspirations; and through her love, sorrow, pain, joy, readers will find that Good Fortune will inspire and stimulate many to keep the memory of these ancestors alive. [click here to read the story behind Good Fortune]  ISBN-10: 1416984801 | ISBN-13: 9781416984801


Noni Carter: Writer, Poet, Scholar & Accomplished Classical Pianist
An accomplished classical pianist, poet and novelist, 18-year-old Noni Carter has always cherished the history, values and life lessons of her ancestors. With her debut novel, Good Fortune, Noni hopes to inspire a generation of black youth (her generation) to also embrace with pride the rich legacy of black history—including the gripping experience of slavery.

In Good Fortune, Noni presents an inspiring, historical fiction slave narrative—woven through the flashbacks and remembrances of Ayanna Bahati, an African-American slave woman in the 19th century. The novel is poised to do for Noni’s generation what Alex Haley’s Roots did for his generation—using a compelling story, inspired by the true story of Noni’s great-great-great-great grandmother, to motivate readers of all ages to treasure all aspects of their history; to value education and learning; and to never, ever give up. This novel is not the first significant achievement for Noni Carter, and as she is esteemed by many as a “once in a lifetime young inspiration”, it is certain that this won’t be the last.

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Praise for Good Fortune

"Noni Carter was only a child when she first conceived of this story of a young girl's journey from freedom to slavery and back to ultimate freedom--but her debut novel is written with wisdom and heart far beyond her years. Well researched and delightfully well-written, Good Fortune is an empowering testament to history that will move readers both young and old."  -- Tananarive Due, American Book Award-winning author of The Black Rose and Joplin's Ghost

"Noni Carter is an old wise soul in the body of a beautiful young woman. She has listened to the elders and the ancestors and brought us a story from the past that gives hope to our present and future. "  -- Bertice Berry, author of Redemption Song and The Ties That Bind




A Thousand Never Evers by Shana Burg

IN KUCKACHOO, MISSISSIPPI, 1963, Addie Ann Pickett worships her brother Elias and follows in his footsteps by attending the black junior high school. But when her careless act leads to her brother’s disappearance and possible murder, Addie Ann, Mama, and Uncle Bump struggle with not knowing if he’s dead or alive. Then a good deed meant to unite Kuckachoo sets off a chain of explosive events. Addie Ann knows Old Man Adams left his land to the white and black people to plant a garden and reap its bounty together, but the mayor denies it. On garden picking day, Addie Ann’s family is sorely tested. Through tragedy, she finds the voice to lead a civil rights march all her own, and maybe change the future for her people.   ISBN: 0440422094 | ISBN-13: 9780440422099


Meet the Author
Shana Burg is an educator, journalist, and public speaker who continues to work toward the promise of social justice. She lives in Austin, Texas.

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Sapphire's Grave by Hilda Gurley-Highgate

The debut of a major new talent, SAPPHIRE'S GRAVE tells the stories of several generations of African-American women, bringing their spirit and their sorrow to life with a power, sensitivity, and immediacy.

In 1749 in Sierra Leone, a woman of fierce dignity is captured and forced onto a slave ship. On the harrowing voyage to the Americas, she is beaten for her unrelenting will and staunch pride. When she arrives, she gives birth to a daughter who is called Sapphire because of the "black-blue-black" complexion she shares with her mother. Sapphire has also inherited her mother's strength and defiant spirit, and despite a life of poverty and oppression, she grows up to mother several daughters of her own. Even when tragedy strikes and part of Sapphire dies, her strength gives rise to a legend that will sustain the women who follow her, "each carrying something of her mother, her grandmother, her aunts; each passing on to her own daughters blessing and cursing, the consequences of her own choosing.

Through the lives of Sapphire and her descendants, Hilda Gurley-Highgate not only creates a poignant and engrossing saga of black women in America, she brilliantly illuminates the meaning of roots and the links between women and their female ancestors, a tie that often appears tenuous, undefined, and distant, but is strong, palpable, and much closer than we imagine. Written in luminous prose, SAPPHIRE'S GRAVE is an astonishing work by an author poised to take the literary world by storm.

HILDA GURLEY-HIGHGATE is an attorney in Detroit, Michigan. This is her first novel.
ISBN-13: 9780767908832 | ISBN: 076790883X

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Detox Your Finances
by Deborah Owens

Just as liquids are important to flush toxins from your system as you diet, a similar approach can trim the bulge in your budget. Americans have been bingeing on debt and according to the Federal Reserve Board have racked up more than 2.26 billion dollars in consumer debt. 

Like dieters who get on the treadmill daily and the pounds don’t come off it can be difficult to gain control of your finances. The culprit---- fees and monthly interest charges that have the same affect on your budget that nutritionist say artificial sweeteners and refined sugar have on weight loss. Here are a few ideas that you can use to implement a financial cleansing.

 

Financial Fast
Like a fast when you’re dieting it is important to approach ridding yourself from debt gradually otherwise you feel deprived and then start to binge or in this case overspend. Start by making a list of all your debt and identifying the largest balances with the highest interest rates first. Pay off your small balances first and eliminate a bill or tackle the balance with the highest interest rate in order to short circuit the compound interest on your balances.  The key is to gradually reduce your debt burden and experience a feeling of financial peace. 

Drink your liquids
When I talk about putting liquidity in your budget I’m not talking about grabbing a can of Slim Fast, I mean having readily available cash.  One of the main causes of credit card debt is not having an emergency fund. Building liquidity may require you to cut your expenses. If you haven’t been saving money, I hope to convince you to reverse that trend.  

Make a commitment to pay yourself ten percent of your take home pay each week and have it automatically transferred from your paycheck or checking account. into a savings or a money market account.  The trade off is settling for the paltry current interest rates of 1.50% or less. For listings of top-yielding savings, money market accounts and CDs, check www.bankrate.com and www.imoney.net  When an emergency happens you can reach for cash instead of credit.

Spend Organically
Going green in your finances means using cold hard cash.
A study on spending behavior found that people who use credit cards for everyday purchases spend fifteen percent more than if they were using cash. Give yourself an allowance every pay period and make a commitment to use cash only.  When you open your wallet and there is no cash it means you have reached your spending limit. The sweetest sound a financially responsible person hears is the sound of their wallet or purse snapping shut.

Deborah Owens is the Wealth Coach on My Generation TV on PBS and is the author of a Purse of Your Own; The Easy Guide to Financial Security published by Simon and Schuster.  Visit www.deborahowens.com to read an excerpt.

 

 



Your Day Is Coming by Shelia E. Lipsey


To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.
This is taken from a well known passage of scripture, Ecclesiastes 3:1 King James Version to be exact. I have found this verse to be true with each moment that passes in my life. There was a time when I felt like I would never reach the pinnacle of success that I have achieved in my literary career. There were times I would cry and ask God, “When is my time?” I have learned through living that there is a time for everything, even when it comes to the ordinary things of life. Even when it comes to my writing, there is a time for everything. 

I often dream of doing great and marvelous works. I have a desire to help others achieve their dreams and provide the resources they need to help them accomplish greatness. I believe that my time has arrived. It is my season to see the desires of my heart come into fruition. Not only has God blessed me to be a writer, but he has blessed me to be an award winning author of Christian fiction books. The desires of my heart are constantly being met, but not in my time. They are being met because it is my season. My season is now. I see doors opening and I see pathways being stretched before me. I am closer than I think. 

If you are an aspiring author, I encourage you to remain full of hope. I encourage you to keep moving in the direction of your dreams. I encourage you to learn and study the craft of writing. Read what you want to write. If you desire to write fiction, read fiction. If you desire to write nonfiction, read nonfiction. If you desire to speak, listen to successful speakers. Learn your craft. Many of us ask for certain things to come forth in our lives, but we don’t want to do the work that is required to bring dreams into the state of reality. 

Your desires, your dreams, your life’s goals, your hopes, are achievable if you first of all: Believe. Believe that what you desire is possible. Believe that your day is coming. Believe that you are closer than you think. 

Next: Work. Work toward achieving your dream. Research, learn, study and do not give up. Work hard at what you want. Work hard for what you want. Network with others who are willing to share information with you. Work on your dream as often as possible. Work on being the best that you can be. Work. Work. Work.

Have Passion: Passion is what will drive you to never give up. Passion will push you toward seeing your dreams and the desires of your heart come to pass. Passion will ignite the fire within you to move in the direction that leads you on the road to success. Without passion, your dreams, your desires and goals will die. Keep Passion in your life, even when you don’t see anything happening. 

Applaud. Applaud others for their accomplishments. Do not be envious or jealous of those who are already at the place you’re trying to reach. Applaud them because that means you have a chance to make it too. When I see someone else who has ‘made it’ then I know that God will do the same for me. If I am jealous and angry, mad or envious over the success of others, then I null the chances of my success. Always seek good for others and good will return to you.

Your desires may not come when you want them to, and that’s all right. They may not come when you expect them to. So what? All you have to do is believe that to everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. Believe, work, have passion and applaud others because your day is coming. As a matter of fact: "You're closer than you think."

Website: www.shelialipsey.com 
Website: www.perfectstoriesaboutimperfectpeople.com 

 

 



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