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A Cold Piece of Work
by Curtis Bunn
Essence® bestselling author Curtis Bunn paints a poignant portrait of a man conflicted in
A Cold Piece of
Work, a man who keeps an iron grip on his macho values and shields himself from intimacy with an icy wall of his own creation, which he refuses to take down, even if it costs him his heart’s only desire....
Solomon “Money” Singletary has gotten nothing but disappointment and heartache whenever he’s allowed himself to love in the past, and he’s not about to let himself fall into that trap again. His best friend may be happily married, reveling in life with his wife and their six-year-old son, but Solomon doesn’t know that kind of joy. Except there’s something about Michele, the woman he’s been dating the past several months, that’s been chipping away at him—and he doesn’t like it at all.
She also has a son, Gerald, who adds to the confusion for Solomon has come to love him like his own child. Michele is warm, loving and kind—qualities that draw her to him like a moth to a flame. Terrified at the very thought of emotional intimacy, he abruptly ends their relationship. But has she already melted this
“cold piece of work” ? And if he pushes her away, will he be able to keep her away?
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The consistent, fulfilling sex changed Michele. She was perky and optimistic, smiling and energetic, jovial and spry. Spirited.
At her book club meeting one Saturday afternoon, she could not contain her glee—or desire to share the source of it to her five co-members. She did not go there planning to tell her business. But one conversation led her on a path of free speech.
“I enjoyed the book,” said club member Renita, who hosted the meeting at her house in Southwest Atlanta, “but I don’t know if it’s realistic.”
“How do you mean?” Michele asked.
“Well, the main female character let the guy get away with too much because the sex was good,” Renita said. “No, I’m not having that. No way.”
Michele laughed.
“What’s so funny?” Renita said. “And why have you been so upbeat and happy lately anyway.”
“You noticed that, too?” Cassandra, another member, said. “When I called her last week, she could hardly stay on the phone with me. And I heard a man’s voice in the background. Unless your son got old pretty fast, that was a man’s voice I heard.”
Michele hardly was one to expose her business to the masses. But her book club members were close friends and she could not hold back. Plus, she wanted them to know.
“Well,” she started, “there is a man—the father of my son.”
“No, wait a minute,” Angie said. She was the audacious member who had a lot to say to everyone about everything. Every book club had an Angie. Diplomacy was not her forte.
“You telling me the guy who ran out on you all those years ago is back?” Angie said. “Since when?”
“It’s a long story, but, yes, he is back,” Michele said. “We’ve been working on things for about five months now.”
“What?” Angie said. “And you held all this back because?”
“I wanted to see if it was real, where it was going,” Michele said. “Here’s what happened, and you’re not going to believe this.”
All the members closed their books and moved to the edge of their seats that were set up in a circle in the living room. No drama in a book was better than real-life drama; especially from someone they knew.
“My son played in this basketball league over at Gresham Park, and he kept talking about this ‘Coach Money’ that he loved. I never met the coach; when I signed him up, I signed him with the director of the program. And when I dropped him off at practices and games, I kept going.
“And when I got progress reports, it was from the director, not his coach. So, anyway, they had a banquet at the end of the season. I was excited because I could finally meet this ‘Coach Money.’
“You know how obsessed I’ve been with Gerald having a male influence in his life and his coach was having an impact. So, we get to the banquet and it’s ‘Coach Money’s’ time to give out his awards.
“I look up on the stage and I can’t believe my eyes. Coach Money was actually Solomon Singletary, Gerald’s father.”
The women let out a series of expressions that told of their shock:
“Stop lying.”
“Get outta here.”
“Oh, my god.”
“You can’t be serious?”
“What?”
“For real. Solomon was coaching his son and neither of us realized it. Can you believe that? I was shocked, to say the least. When he saw me, he was shocked, too. Still, he didn’t know Gerald was his son.”
The women looked at each other, shaking their heads.
“So what happened, girl?” Angie pressed on.
“He apologized about what he had done and I gave him a hard time about it,” Michele continued. “But the truth of the matter was I still had feelings for him, even after all that happened and all that time, even after what he had done. The problem was, I didn’t trust him.”
“How could you?” Angie said. “How can you?”
“He had to build it,” Michele said. “If Gerald wasn’t involved, I probably wouldn’t have given him a chance. But it was always there that he was his father and should be in his life. That was always important to me.
“But I didn’t tell Solomon about Gerald. I kinda-sorta got over the disappearing act he played on me. But it took a lot of time. I had to see what he was about before I told him about Gerald. I mean, it was eight years ago and we all grow up.”
“Not all of us, honey,” Angie said. “I know men who are the same jerks now as they were in their twenties. So…”
“Well, from what I’ve seen, Solomon has changed,” Michele said. “He admitted a lot to me and he really has been amazing. The part I was nervous about was telling him about Gerald. I didn’t know if he would run or if he would be mad at me or if he’d just refuse to be a part of his life.
“But he’s been totally committed to being a father.”
“Well, congratulations, girl. That had to be a relief,” Cassandra said.
“I feel like a different person, you know? Like I’ve done something great for my son—and myself,” Michele said.
“That’s what men can do— the right man, the righteous man,” Renita said. “When my husband and I are doing well, there’s no better feeling. The trick that I haven’t figured out is how to feel that way all the time.”
“’Nita, no one has or ever will figure that one out,” Angie said. “It would be the ninth wonder of the world.”
The ladies laughed.
“But let’s get back to the original question,” Angie said when the laughter subsided. “What’s all this glow about? It can’t be just because Solomon… That’s his name, right? …has been a good father. Can it?”
All eyes shifted to Michele, who took a large gulp of her glass of Oya wine and decided she would share her good news with her friends. Their previous book club meetings had turned into complaint sessions about their jobs, finances, kids, men or the lack of quality men. She decided she would color that meeting with real talk about how her life had changed in five months.
“You asked for it.” Michele smiled. “It was one thing to see Solomon and to learn that he wanted to be with me again. And it was another thing that he loves his son and is doing his part as his father.
“But…” Michele shook her head and looked off at nothing in particular, “…to consistently feel a man’s hands on my body and to feel his passion… oh, my god, it has been something that changed how I feel about myself and about life.”
“What?” Angie said.
“Angie, be quiet,” Renita said. “Let her finish.”
Michele continued. “It’s just that— and I never felt like I needed a man to make me whole—having the passion we have is something that has stuck to me. The way he handles me and caresses me and kisses me and makes love to me… it’s something that physically brings me pleasure all day long.
“It’s like he’s all over me. Even though we may have been together the night before, the next day I’m still carrying that intimacy with me. My body sometimes aches, but not like pain. It’s like an intense yearning to feel him.
“But it really is more than that. It all starts with the physical; he knows what he’s doing to me in bed. But—for me anyway—there’s something really comforting about knowing you have good sex in your life.
“It gives me confidence and comfort. And it might seem like a little thing, but it makes me feel joyous. So, yeah, I’m glowing. I feel like an important part of my life is there and it brings that extra pep in my step. It makes me feel sexy and desired. It makes me more patient and understanding. It makes me feel better than happy. Happiness can come and go. Being joyous or joyful is a state of being, no matter what else is going on. That’s how I feel. Joyous.”
Her friends looked at her in amazement. They had never heard her talk so much at once and they were captivated by her thoughts. No one said anything, so Michele kept going.
“This is different from having somebody come over on a booty call— we’ve all had them—and, you know, basically provide a service. Feeling so strongly about him it makes the love-making so much more intense and so much more pleasurable.
“It was good before with him, but it is something incredible now. And you know what? It makes me understand why a woman would cheat on her husband. I don’t condone it; don’t get me wrong. If Solomon and I broke up—God forbid—and I had to move on to someone who didn’t give me loving that stuck with me all the next day or I didn’t crave his touch, it would be a disappointment.
“I probably would, eventually, seek that feeling that I have now. That’s awful to say, I know. And I hope that, if it ever came to that, I’d be more committed than I’m sounding right now. But I’ve learned that sex is critical to a relationship. We must be honest enough to admit that. I know now that it changes my whole attitude about my everyday life.
“What woman doesn’t want a man who is good to her and is a good provider and a good father? I’m convinced now that he could be all that, but if he isn’t making you crave him sexually, well, it’s not the same. Unbelievable sex can make up for a lot of flaws.”
Her book club members nodded their heads knowingly.
“Girl, you sound like that man is putting it down,” Angie said. “I joke around a lot, but I understand what you’re saying. I almost married a guy once because that fool knew how to knock some boots. Damn, he was good.”
“So why didn’t you marry him?” Renita said.
“He was knocking boots with anyone he could, that’s why,” Angie answered. “Then he ended up in prison for selling drugs or something.”
“He probably started getting his boots knocked in prison,” Cassandra joked.
“Yeah, but you get her point, though?” Michele said. “He obviously had flaws. But he made her feel good.”
“If you’re so tied to the sex, aren’t you giving him all the power?” Cassandra asked.
“I have two answers for that,” Michele said. “Who cares about power if he’s changing your outlook on life and the attitude you have going about your day? That’s a fight for power that I don’t even care to be involved in. He can have the power; as long as he doesn’t abuse it.
“The other answer is it isn’t a one-way street. You actually have power, too. If you’re pleasing him as much as he’s pleasing you, he’s going through his day thinking about getting back to you to get what you’re giving.
“Solomon and I talked about it, which is another residual of great sex. It opens you up. It makes you want to communicate with your man. He said to me before I said anything to him about all this that he has sat at his desk at work and stopped what he was doing and reminisced about us together.
“He said, ‘I can feel your heat and your body right there.’ And I was like, ‘Wow, he’s experiencing the same thing I am.’
“So, it is a two-way street. Neither one of us is thinking about who has power. We’re not
over thinking it. Truth be told, that’s a real problem we have, as women. We are quick to analyze something up and down, around and around, back and forth.
“We do all that and we’re missing the essence of what it is. If I spent time, Cassandra, trying to worry about or trying to figure out if he has the power over me, I would miss out on the pleasure. It would take away from it because I wouldn’t be thinking about it.
“And, see, that’s what this has also taught me. Relax. Enjoy the moment. We all want things to be perfect. It would’ve been perfect if Solomon had never left me and we’d stayed a couple and had a child and so forth. But if I stayed stuck on what I didn’t have, I wouldn’t have been able to fully embrace what I do have now.
“You understand what I’m saying? And, listen, this is all new to me. Five months ago I wasn’t getting anything and I got to where I thought I wouldn’t get any for a long time—if ever. I was fed up. We’ve all been there.
“But to be where I am now… I’m sorry if I’m preaching, y’all. I have a lot to say.”
Angie said: “And to think, I thought this bitch was a prude. Turns out she’s a little whore.”
The women burst into laughter.
After several seconds, the noise died down.
“Girl, you make me want to go out and find Mr. Goodbar,” Renita said.
“Don’t you have a husband?” Michele said.
“And?” Renita responded.
“Ah, that’s cold,” Michele answered.
“It is what it is,” Renita said. “I can’t lie. You stay married long enough, it seems like maintaining what you’re talking about is impossible. I love Steve. He’s my husband. But he’s not putting it down like he used to.”
“Well, I’m no relationship expert,” Michele said, “so I can’t really sit here and try to offer you advice. But I’ll tell you this: Solomon and I went twelve days straight making love.”
“No wonder your ass is in pain,” Angie blurted out, prompting more laughter.
“Whatever, crazy lady,” Michele said. “My point is, in the middle of that time, we talked about how to maintain what we have as far as passion and desire and romance go. And he said, ‘We can’t let it get stale like everyone else does; that’s the problem with many marriages. They get comfortable and let things go. We have to keep it sexy and fun.’
“We don’t have years together to draw from. But we hope to, and we’ll always draw from that idea that you have to continue to make the effort. This is the best I’ve felt in my entire life and I don’t want to feel any other way. I just don’t.”
“Yeah, that sounds great in theory. But once you get years together and kids and work and other outside interests in the way, you’re lucky to get any kind of sex once a week,” Angie said. “If we do it twice a week, there has to be some holiday that week.”
The other women chimed in with similar stories of being tired and unmotivated to maintain a relentless love life with the men in their lives. Michele wanted to tell them, “Clearly, he ain’t hittin’ it right. If he was, you’d understand what I’m saying and you’d make the time to get it.” But she understood their experiences were different from hers. And if they did not get it from her lengthy open monologue on sex, then that was their loss.
“Well, I understand what you’re saying” she said. “I’m just telling you my experience.”
Her co-members continued the conversation and Michele receded to the background over the remainder of the meeting. She had opened up about herself and her love life like never before, and it felt good. Whether her friends truly understood her or not was really of little significance. She was glad to put into words how Solomon made her feel.
About the Author
Curtis Bunn is the Essence No. 1 best-selling author whose new book,
“A Cold Piece of
Work,” has been called a “masterpiece and conversation piece” by NY Times bestselling author Zane.
An award-winning sports journalist over a 25-year career, Bunn has made his mark as an author that crafts authentic and insightful stories that delve into the minds of men.
In 2002 he founded the National Book Club Conference, which has become a premier annual literary event. Please visit at
www.curtisbunn.com.
When Simone’s conniving husband Stefan is caught dealing with the Mafia, the world she knows is changed. She is left facing an investigation, murder, and revenge while striving to save a company she loved––a company she inherited from her late Aunt Marge. With the help of her sister Sabrina, they devise a plan to survive the turmoil, but not without recruiting Rodney, Simone's old flame, who was bouncing back from heartache. Rodney devises a dynamic plan to assist Simone and Sabrina while marketing a production campaign.
Gail, a marketing associate who crosses paths with Rodney, joins his firm and they begin a relationship. When Simone's company’s trouble subsides, she sets out on the prowl for Rodney. She is desperate for the chance to rekindle their love. When Gail discovers Simone’s intentions, she battles for a man whom she aspires to marry. But who will win Rodney’s heart?
Unlike the traditional romance novel, WHEN LOVE EVOLVES explores a more dramatic plot, one involving suspense, passion, rage and the mafia. Written from a male’s perspective, WHEN LOVE EVOLVES is a one-of-a-kind romance novel that will grip readers from start to finish.
Excerpt When Love Evolves by Lonz Cook
“Embezzlement, laundering! I can’t believe Stefan would do such a thing,” Simone said to Sabrina while driving from the lawyer’s office downtown. Frowning, Simone pondered at how things had gone wrong over the years. She’d married her ideal man. Stefan turned out to be just that: an idea. He’d maneuvered his way beyond Simone’s love and into her finances. It was over a year before Simone opened her life to him the way Rodney, a failed flame, had done for her. She had allowed Stefan access to her accounts out of love. Her eyes were blinded by her affection for a player, a man of few morals, who did not believe in true love. Stefan had seen a path to wealth, and it was the path he’d proudly traveled.
Stefan belonged to a group of people who played their luck on quick riches. He observed many men, comparing the lives of those who played the game of life fairly with the lives of those who cheated. It dawned on him repeatedly that good guys finished last and that immediate riches and wealth came to those who schemed their way to success.
It was like heaven when Simone crossed his path at the annual city fundraiser. She wore an intricate designer ball gown, accented with diamond bracelets and a five-carat necklace. He made his way to her and pursued the challenge.
Realizing her huntress personality, Stefan stayed within her sight for the next few hours but never approached her. He masked himself with a cloud of mystery and led Simone with a blindfold of seduction. He intrigued her in a way she’d never experienced. Stefan began to flirt with other women in front of Simone, leading her into a rage of desire. His ploy worked and compelled her competitive nature. She fought hard to get his attention the entire night, to divert him away from the gorgeous women. Stefan played her like a man fingering the fiddle. His goal was entrapment, but Simone didn’t see it.
Stefan never let on that he didn’t ask anyone else to dinner or drinks that evening. He had, however, leaned on a few women and hinted at having such an interest, especially in plain view of Simone. With the night lingering, the cat-and-mouse game about to end, he postured himself as the hottest bachelor available and the winner…Simone! While in the midst of a crowd of beautiful women attending the fundraiser, his sudden invitation for her to accompany him to dinner came when her guard was down. “Yes,” Simone said as she smiled triumphantly.
Dinner went well for Simone. She invited Stefan to her place afterwards, something Simone didn’t do often with men she’d just met. It was the bad-girl move, a spontaneous adventure—one she’d have never thought of embarking on with Rodney. Stefan moved as if he played a song, plucking all the right notes, which encouraged Simone to fall into his arms. Once they arrived at Simone’s mansion, Stefan smiled deep inside and visions of gold lingered in his mind. I’m landing this one; this one’s going to be my wife. Stefan moved toward Simone and pulled her close.
“What are you doing?” Simone grinned and embraced Stefan’s advances.
“It’s what you expect me to do. I’m not alone here; you’re ready for this.” Stefan leaned in with a kiss, and then kissed her again. Simone savored his touch and forgot anything but her lustful thoughts. Since her Aunt Marge had passed away, she’d focused so much on managing her business and inheritance that she had never allowed outside influences. Simone never wanted to lose the money Aunt Marge had bequeathed, so she had concentrated on generating cash flow and building a successful company beyond her aunt’s wildest dreams. Nothing gave her joy like seeing the numbers grow, and her financial background and training had aided her in her efforts. But at the moment, she only focused on Stefan. “I so want this,” she said.
“I know you want this, just as I do.” Stefan continued his advances and led her up the stairs, searching for a bedroom. “Take me to where you’re most comfortable.”
“Turn there,” Simone said. Stefan turned into Simone’s room where there was a queen-sized canopy bed, silk linens, and soft, white chiffon curtains. He guided her to the side of the bed, kissed her, and pushed her onto it.
About the Author
Lonz Cook is a Marine Corps veteran, adjunct professor of management at Keller School of Management, DeVry University, and a technology pro has written professionally for years. As a sports coach, his talents were used to transcribe game highlights as a military battle. His creativity helped fellow service members passionately communicate with their loved ones during deployments. Lonz has written scripts and narrated training tapes for military personnel. His technical writing abilities were instrumental in the training of many service members. He lives in Atlanta.
Visit Lonz at: www.lonzcook.net
Secrets of
a Kept Woman
by Shani Greene-Dowdell
Secrets
of a Kept Woman is a urban lit story that deals with women's relationships
in friendship and in love. Shayla, Rhonda and Gladys have been best
friends since high school and have always been the strength each other needs,
but when one woman decides that a man is more important than friendship,
everything goes to pieces. Is this friendship one dark secret away from
shattering it into a thousand pieces? They say the truth shall set you free --
but will it?
EXCERPT:
Issues. We all have plenty of them. Take a look into a day in the life of
Shayla Wilson, a kindhearted wife who married the biggest drug dealer in Pine
Mountains, as she tells her story through her eyes.
As I paused to take a moment to digest the sensual and alluring ambiance I'd
set for the evening, the question pounded into my head like a meat cleaver.
The strongest thud pulsating against my temple sent a pang from my head
through my body and that pain took up residence in my heart, piercing my
already tattered soul. My mind raced pondering a million and two questions.
"How could he do me like this, again? How could I let him? What had we
come to? Where were we going?"
I asked the questions to no one in particular. I was all alone. Again.
"Why do I love so hard that I can't let go?"
I couldn't pin down the moment in time that the insatiable joy left our
relationship, but that joy had slipped away from our beautiful home into a
faint trace of existence.
Positioned in the middle of the jumbo gazebo in the backyard, the Jacuzzi
flowed with warm bubbly water scented with a touch of jasmine oil. Dim post
lighting outlined the gazebo creating a glowing allure that could take a
lover's breath away. Pink floating candles shone brightly at the four corners
of the gazebo and an assortment of designer candles meticulously placed around
the Jacuzzi added just the right effect.
E-lec-tri-city was in the air and I was proud to have successfully turned my
backyard into a lover's paradise. I anticipated a beautiful night with him.
Well, that was all the way up until the champagne got hot, the gourmet shrimp
fettuccini I slaved over making to perfection got cold, and every bubble in
the Jacuzzi fizzled down to faint traces of soap scum.
About the Author
Shani Greene-Dowdell has
written two books and compiled two anthologies and is viewed by her peers as a
down to earth person who loves to have fun and share her growth. When she is
not promoting her books or plays, she can be found crafting words as a medical
transcriptionist for her local hospital.
Prescription for Healthy Relationships
by Talayah G. Stovall
Human beings have an inherent need to develop meaningful relationships.
We all want to share our goals, ideas, joys, sorrows, desires, affection and experiences with someone else. However, we all fall short at times in handling the mechanics of them. There are times when we need to “doctor” up or even perform “surgery” on some of our relationships.
Do you experience any of the following symptoms in any of your relationships?
• Frequent arguments
• Low energy conversations
• Apathy regarding the relationship
• Lack of interaction/no desire for proximity
• Continuously looking for “something better”
We go to the doctor for regular checkups, but how often do we check the health of our relationships?
Just like your physical health, positive relationships whether they are romantic, social or professional–require maintenance. Good relationships don’t just “happen.” Just as our physical bodies get sick from time to time, most relationships go through periods of “illness” as well. Fortunately, with proper treatment, these relationships can “recover” and thrive.
Being constantly on guard for symptoms of illness within your relationships will help keep them healthy and prosperous. People who have healthy relationships are happier and less stressed.
If you answered “yes” to any of the above symptoms, you might be in an unhealthy relationship. If so, here are some possible “remedies”:
Regular check-ups – to determine the overall health of your relationship, it is important to regularly communicate with your partner, friend, relative or associate to determine how they are feeling about the relationship. Set a regular period, depending on the relationship – monthly, quarterly, etc. to get together for the sole purpose of assessing the relationship.
Relationship checklist/chart – discuss what is working and what is not working in your relationship. Work on the issues and revisit them to see if the “stats” have improved at the next check-in.
“Weigh in” on your relationship – each of you should share your feelings with the other person. Be open and honest about what you are experiencing and listen carefully to his or her concerns.
Take the “temperature” of your relationships. Is it running hot or cold? Do you still enjoy each others’ company and/or benefit from the association? Is it moving in a positive direction?
Measure the “pulse” – Is it strong or weak? Is the bond between you growing stronger or weaker from one check-in to the next?
Use the correct prescription – know the right dosage of love and caring to share with that person, remembering that the prescription will be unique for each individual.
Know yourself – just as you pay attention to your body’s signals when it is experiencing injury or illness, know your personal reactions to the situations you encounter in your relationships and how those situations affect you. Know your “numbers” and how to read your results.
Read the warning signs/symptoms – as indicated above, watch for “key indications” that might indicate that there is a malignancy in your relationship.
Here are some of the “vital signs” of a healthy relationship:
• Built on respect, trust and caring
• Allows each person to be an individual and to grow personally
• Allows for differences of opinion and interests
• Apologizes, talks things out and moves on
• Knows how to respect each others’ “space”
• Enjoys each other’s company
• Benefits from each other’s opinions
• Supports each other’s goals
• Contains open communication and sharing of thoughts and ideas as well as active listening
• Establishes boundaries that the other knows not to cross
• Has common interests, but also values differences
• Picks their battles by determining what is really important and what issues are not worth arguing about and works on one issue at a time.
• Comfortable saying “no” when necessary
• Expresses appreciation for each other to reaffirm respect and affection
In a healthy relationship, you should not be afraid to speak your mind.
No type of relationship should cause you to compromise or doubt who you are. People who have your best interests at heart will never ask you to be someone you are not or to compromise what you believe in. Before being open with anyone else, you must first be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are seeking from another person and what you are willing to give.
Remember, healthy relationships are not built overnight. It takes time, energy and commitment to develop any type of relationship, whether with business associates, family, friends or a romantic partner. So, be happy; be healthy; be whole. Here is to a healthier you!
About the Author
Talayah G. Stovall is an author, speaker and life purpose coach. For information on motivational CD, “PUMP It UP!, her book, Crossing the Threshold: Opening Your Door to Successful Relationships, her eBook, 150 Important Questions You Should Ask Before You Say “I Do”, to sign up for the “EmPOWERed to…” newsletter or find out about other offerings, visit
www.talayahstovall.com
Email talayah@talayahstovall.com.
Watch for her next book, Light Bulb Moments: Lessons from Every Day Living.
Intimate Conversation with
author Pynk
PYNK
is the best-selling author of three erotica titles and winner of the 2008
YOUnity award for both the Fastest Rising Literary Star and Author of the Year.
Hachette Books released the first title, Erotic City, in November 2008.
Erotic City was a finalist for a 2009 African-American Literary Award in the
category of erotica and voted one of the Best Reads for 2008 by Black
Expressions.
The second
title, Sexaholics, about four women addicted to sex, hit the
shelves on March 23, 2010 and was voted among the 2010 Best Books by the Sankofa
Literary Society.
The third PYNK
title, Sixty-Nine, about three women born in 1969 who are about to turn
the big 4-0, came out on March 25, 2011. Politics Escorts
Blackmail follows in 2012.
Each steamy PYNK title is set in a different city - Atlanta, Los Angeles,
Miami, New York, and soon in Las Vegas and Dallas. Allow yourself to
live your sexy dreams through the words of PYNK, as her characters are sure to
make a fictional appearance in your city soon.
BPM: Who are your mentors? Where do you find your inspiration?
Some of my mentors have been those who came before me, not hands on but showing
by example, like Octavia Butler, Terry McMillan, James Baldwin, and Stephen
King. Today, I've learned much from talented author-friends like Mary B.
Morrison, Eric Jerome Dickey, and Victoria Christopher Murray, among others. My
love of writing inspires me by piquing my curiosity in certain topics,
motivating me to breathe life into characters so I can explore their journeys in
my mind's eye. That's exciting!
BPM: What have you realized about yourself since becoming a published author?
I've realized that I am very effective at managing the reclusive times that are
absolutely necessary when it comes to writing - some can't. I know when it's
time to shut down the computer and see to my needs and connect with others, and
I have great people in my life who understand and respect my deadlines. I'm very
disciplined and the life of a writer suits me well.
BPM: What is the most rewarding aspect of your career?
The most rewarding part of my career is hearing from readers. I so enjoy
connecting with readers who've taken the time to not only read my works, but to
also sign my guestbook, send emails, share their lives, post reviews, or come
out and meet me. I'm honored and appreciative. My readers make me smile big!
BPM: Do you have any advice for people seeking to publish a book?
Study the craft of writing and do the research on the business of publishing,
whether you self-publish of accept an offer. Also, ask yourself if writing is
your passion. Would you do it for free? If the answer is yes, then do the work,
stay disciplined, develop a think skin, manage the lifestyle, be patient, and
work toward making a living at it.
BPM: If you were not a writer, what would you be?
If I was not a writer I would be either an interior decorator or a professional
bowler. I love both - do what you love!
BPM: When you have completed a project, how do you celebrate?
I celebrate by making sure to enjoy my favorite meal, along with a chilled glass
of wine champagne. I take a long bubble-bath, perhaps enjoy a massage, and make
sure to get away somewhere out of town for a while with someone I love, just
relaxing and recharging until the next one.
BPM: Hot Seat-- share with us ONE detail about you or a hobby readers would
enjoy.
Detail: I was a commercial actress and my first acting job was a one-on-one
scene with legendary actress Angela Lansbury, who's the most beautiful and
patient spirit I've ever met. She sat nearby and chased away the butterflies,
even when she wasn't in the scene. I'll never forget her.
BPM:
Introduce us to your book, SIXTY-NINE and the characters. On Kindle or
Nook?
In my third title, SIXTY-NINE, Magnolia Butler, Rebe Richardson and Darla Clark
are about to turn the big 4-0. They're all born in 1969 (thus the
title). They've been best friends since high school and have lived
life on the safe side of the street, especially when it comes to sex.
SIXTY-NINE is a coming-of-age story of sisterhood and friendship, and about how
our upbringing and experiences shape our ideas about life, sometimes leaving us
unfulfilled and dissatisfied, though it can also be true that some things are
better off left alone. One New Year's Eve, these three best friends
make a vow to go beyond their boundaries and the outcomes change their lives
forever. SIXTY-NINE is erotica, available in trade paperback, and on
Kindle and Nook.
BPM: Take us inside SIXTY-NINE. What are two major events taking
place?
1) Darla Clark has been a widow for five years and has been celibate since her
husband's death. She's at a crossroads as far as whether to move on, or continue
to show respect to her husband's memory by never again sharing her heart or body
with anyone, just as her father has done ever since Darla's conservative mother
passed away. The toughest part for Darla is that when her husband died, she was
in bed with him.
2) Magnolia Butler is in a make-up to break-up relationship with Mr. Wrong whose
name is Neal Graham, whom she just can't seem to shake. The supposed last straw
was that he cheated with his freaky-deaky secretary, yet now he wants Darla back
"one more time." She vows it'll never happen again, and also vows to
explore her own wild side of life, believing if she'd just been a little more of
a vixen, he would've never strayed. But being that it's a small world, she finds
one particular encounter to be too close for comfort.
BPM: What situation or revelation prompted you to write your book, SIXTY-NINE?
My characters were created after watching an episode of The Oprah Show on the
topic of sexual repression. She talked about how some women have never had an
orgasm, and that some do not know how to enjoy sex, while others know how and
are willing, yet the old programmed messages of guilt speak louder than their
desire to enjoy themselves freely. I see this as a problem in our society for
women. We women need to be educated and seek help if necessary. The word sex is
still so negative to so many. Healthy sex between consenting adults, or alone,
is a woman's right as well as a man's.
BPM: Who do you want to reach with your book and the message within?
I would like women who might feel some sort of sexual repression to relax and
embrace their sexuality. Mind you, I'm not saying be promiscuous and partake in
risky behavior. Whether you have a lover or not, learn as much as you can about
your own body and how it works, what it looks like, focus on your likes and
dislikes, express yourself and ask for what pleases you. Be more creative. Try
something new that you're comfortable with. If you have repressive aspects that
have caused problems, seek help from a counselor and/or gynecologist. Enjoy
yourself and be happy. That is key.
Even women who
don't have repressive issues might recognize a friend in this story, and men
could learn a lot about the women in their lives by reading SIXTY-NINE. It could
help men to become more patient and understanding. It's all about sexual
awakenings, in the book, in one's mind, and in the bed.
BPM: What are some of the specific issues or problems addressed in this book?
In SIXTY-NINE, I address the inability to achieve orgasm, a woman's first
experience on an adult website, abusive parents, conservative upbringings,
economic pressures, betrayal, threesomes, mother-daughter-issues, mid-life
stripping, love-addiction, second chances, and more.
BPM: Share with us a quote from one of the most powerful chapters.
I suppose that would be the opening line of the book: She really did love her
best friends, but less than twenty years ago she slept with her best friend's
man and got pregnant.
BPM: Ultimately, what do you want readers to gain from your book?
I want women to learn to be Sex-see, as I call it, seeing themselves as sexy,
feeling sexy and looking sexy for themselves. I have a "Pynk Dares You To
Be Sexy" chapter in SIXTY-NINE that lists 26 ideas or homework assignments
on how you can be sexier. Try a few alone or with a partner whom you trust. You
just might find new meaning in the term Sixty-Nine. Flip your sex life to a
brighter side.
BPM: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
I'm happy to say that I was an honoree at the SistahFriend Book Club's
African-American Literary Festival, where myself and other authors were awarded
the 2010 Pink Diamond Award. Also, EROTIC CITY was nominated in the best fiction
category for an African-American Literary Award. SIXTY-NINE hits the shelves on
March 25, 2011, and I'm wrapping up my 2012 title called POLITICS ESCORTS
BLACKMAIL, about the call-girls and politicians in New York City. It's Madam
Money Watts' fictional memoir.
Excerpt from True Confessions
by Best Selling Author Electa Rome Parks
Twenty-eight
year old Kennedy Logan is gorgeous, educated, talented, and in love.
Unfortunately, Drake Collins has other ideas about the true state of their
relationship. Kennedy hopes to turn him around; Drake just wants to turn her out
sexually. Kennedy is also searching for her biological mother, who gave her up
at birth. She wants answers and she has tons of questions. The enormous weight
of these predicaments leads to a failed suicide attempt.
Her overprotective and overbearing mother, Dorothy Logan, moves in with Kennedy
and makes it her mission to get her daughter's life back in order. The first
step is getting rid of Drake Collins once and for all, but that's easier said
than done. Drake has no intentions of going anywhere. Kennedy's ever loyal and
fun-loving best friend, Taylor, and her absentee father join forces to help
support Kennedy in her time of need.
True
Confessions starts off bringing the drama. Readers are introduced to
Kennedy Logan in her most desperate and lowest moment in time. . . she is
thinking her final thoughts after making the tragic decision to end her own
life. Readers, hopefully, sense the level of despair she has
reached, how low she has sunk to decide to go this route. Questions
are immediately raised. Why? What so horrible could possibly have happened to
this person?
As
the story unfolds, readers have the opportunity to meet one of the major reasons
life looked so bleak and hopeless to Kennedy. Enter Drake Collins,
her love or ex love interest. It is soon apparent that what looks good and
smells good and says the right words on the outside isn't necessarily so perfect
on the inside. Drake is not as he presents himself and during the course
of True
Confessions, many secrets are revealed where Kennedy can say,
"In hindsight the clues were all there. I just refused to see them. But
love will make you do that sometimes."
Prologue True Confessions by Electa Rome Parks
My reality is surreal and happens in super, slow motion. A nervous giggle escapes my chapped, dry and parched lips. I lick them to restore moisture. Then, there is utter, deadly silence. If I listen closely, I can hear my heartbeat beating away at an accelerated pace. My senses are heightened and I marvel over the brilliant, bold colors of my bedroom as I inhale my favorite fragrances, from their spot on my antique dresser, colliding into one another with their potent allure. Even my sense of touch is different somehow. Everything is magnified to the nth degree. It’s like I’m looking down at myself from a huge movie screen with surround sound as I ready myself for the big finale---the final shot and then fade to black.
I’ve never been good at saying goodbye, even on short, weekend trips. I keep the handwritten note short and sweet and pray to God that mother will understand, and hopefully, one day, forgive me.
I don’t mean to hurt her or cause her any fresh pain. I sincerely don't. I hope she understands that this isn't her fault, that I love her with all my heart and being. No matter what, that fact will never change. I’m so thankful and forever grateful that she chose me to be her daughter out of all the orphaned babies in the world. She chose me. I told myself over and over again that that made me special. I needed to feel special instead of unwanted and discarded.
I’ll miss mother the most, but the hurt I feel inside is too unbearable and indescribable. It is too painful for me to continue, day in and day out, with just a hollow emptiness that erodes and corrupts any happiness that briefly surfaces. The dawn of each new day only brings me more heartache and renewed memories. Some memories are like leeches. They latch on for dear life and slowly, ever so slowly, suck and drain all the blood, all the living out of you. You are left with just a shell of the old you and that's no way to survive. Not for me, anyway.
When they find me, I want it to look like I’m sleeping, peacefully. Just like Sleeping Beauty who only needed a handsome prince to kiss her and awaken her from the darkness that engulfed her. However, for me, there won't be a handsome, charming prince to wake me, save me, and ride off into eternity. All my so-called princes were monsters in disguise with their own hidden agendas that attempted to crush and stamp out my self-esteem. Yes, just blessed sleep awaits me.
I chose pills. I couldn’t subject mother to a messy, bloody scene that comes with slitting one’s wrists or shooting one's self. I refuse to take my final breath with that heavy on my heart. I don't think my heart could handle anything else weighing against it. As it is, I feel like I have three hundred pounds weighing me down. Crushing the life out of me.
As I settle myself comfortably on my queen-size bed, slowly pull the red, satin comforter up to my chin and stare at the full bottle of prescription pills carefully nestled in my right hand, I can’t imagine not waking up in the morning.
What will it be like to not see the rising sun? To not hear my alarm clock going off announcing it’s time to get ready for another day of work? Not hitting snooze to give myself another fifteen minutes? Not rushing to finish my morning rituals before I dash out the door and into rush-hour traffic? What will that feel like?
More important to me now, though, is will it hurt? I hope not. I have never been able to tolerate too much pain, physical, mental or emotional. Yet, that’s what Drake has caused me for the last year of my life. Pain. Intolerable suffering.
I only wanted to love him and for him to love me in return. Simple enough. Was that asking too much? My part of the equation was accomplished, effortless. Drake claimed he loved me, but he really didn’t. Probably never could. Didn't know how to love or receive it. After what happened last week, I know he didn’t. Yet, I gave him everything: my heart, my body, my soul. Now, I have nothing left to give myself. I'm empty inside.
As tears slowly flood my weary eyes and blur my vision, I look around my cozy bedroom for the last time. Ever. It used to be one of my favorite rooms in my small two bedroom, one bath apartment. There was nothing better than lighting several fragrant candles, drinking a little white wine and cozying up with a good romance novel. Yes, that was heaven. Simple things excite me. Always have. Watching a sunrise or sunset, waking up to birds chirping in the treetops, walking hand in hand through the park with the one I love, all these things brought me great joy.
Mother will have to understand. I left her a note, propped up on the nightstand, in full view, that explains how much I love her and daddy. What will she think when she can’t reach me tonight? I would love to hear her soothing, loving voice one last time. Yet, I know I wouldn’t be able to go through with my plan if I did. I’d give away my intentions over the phone or mother would pick up on my foul mood and that would be that. I’d wake up another day with this aching, dull pain inside, tearing me apart, bit-by-bit. Pain that dulls and diminishes every ounce of my strength, all the way down to my pores.
Drake Collins. His name leaves a bitter taste on my tongue. Just the thought of him brings bile to the back of my throat. I will forever regret the day I met that man. If I could turn back the hands of time, do it all over again, I would have called in sick that day or run for the hills. I was just fine with my life the way it was. Sure, it wasn’t exciting or glamorous, but it was enough for me. Drake came with the charm, movie star looks, glitz and high drama and reeled me right in like a bass caught at sea. I gladly jumped into his net.
I say a silent prayer of forgiveness as I place one, then two colorful pills on my tongue and swallow dry. I didn't think of getting a glass of water. I can't think. The lump in my throat quickly diminishes. There’s no turning back now. Just like there was no turning back when Drake turned me out. The countdown begins. Ten, nine, eight. . . I've lived a happy life. I have tons of good memories. I've treated others the way I wanted to be treated.
I hope this happens quickly. I steadfastly place three, four pills on my tongue and swallow again. Hot tears start to spill forth and stream down my cheeks as I realize the final result of my actions. Seven, six, five. . . It’s for the best. I need to stop the pain. Will he even miss me? Or will he just move on to his next victim? Will all this be in vain?
I guess I’ll never have that family now. The one I used to daydream and write about in my journal. The family with the almost perfect mommy and daddy and two kids, a boy and girl. The boy would be the oldest, and he'd look out for and protect his younger sister. They'd have cute, adorable names and they'd know they were wanted and loved and cherished by their parents. They'd never feel unwanted.
Four, three. . . I swallow a handful of pills this time. I've lost count as to how many I've digested. As spittle escapes from my mouth, I gag. I wipe the overflow away with the back of my hand and keep right on shoving pills in my mouth until the orange-brown medicine bottle is empty. I look inside, in awe, shake the bottle, and can’t believe the pills are gone so quickly. Just like the illusion of love. If you blink, you'll miss it.
I wonder if Drake even realizes how much I loved him? Now, I wait for blessed relief and peace to take away my hurt and pain. I’m so tired. Tired of loving the wrong men. Tired of giving my all, coming up empty, and getting absolutely nothing back in return. Good sex isn’t the end all to everything. Drake taught me that lesson.
Two, one. . . It won’t be long now. I faintly smile and lay back against my down pillow.
I welcome peace. In my mind, I start silently repeating Psalms 23. I shall walk through the valley of death; I shall fear no evil, for thou art with me. I’m so sleepy. I can barely keep my eyes open. I can feel myself giving in to the fog that slowly invades my mind. Maybe if I close my eyes for a few moments. Yeah, just rest them for a few minutes without seeing Drake’s face behind my heavy eyelids.
Suddenly, I feel lightheaded, like I’m floating on a big, fluffy white cloud, bouncing up and down, giddy with not a care in the world. This is a different sensation that I literally reach out my right hand to embrace and never let go of. Not a care in the world. Nothing matters but blessed, uneventful sleep. I close my tired, weary eyes as the countdown ends. Fade to black.
About
the Author Electa
Rome Parks lives outside Atlanta, Georgia and is the best-selling
author of six acclaimed novels, The Ties That Bind, Loose Ends, Almost Doesn't
Count, Ladies' Night Out, These Are My Confessions (anthology) and Diary of a
Stalker. Dubbed a "book club favorite," avid readers have embraced
Electa's true to life characters that tackle prevalent and heavy hitting issues
that take them on an emotional roller coaster.
The self-proclaimed Queen of Real, Electa has been a frequent guest on radio
shows, nominated for many industry awards and interviewed by numerous
newspapers and national magazines. Electa is currently following her passion and
working on her next novel and first screenplay.
Become
Yourself by Electa Rome Parks
“Ordinary,
brown braided woman with big legs and full lips, become yourself.”
Wow!
The first time I heard Phylicia Rashad’s character speak those words with her
gravely, powerful voice that demands attention, speaking straight, no chaser,
from her soul. . . from a place of knowing, from a spiritual realm in the For
Colored Girls trailer. . . I literally experienced chills up and down my spine
as if they were saying, pay attention. This is a lesson in life. I was
speechless, mesmerized and empowered to action. Two little words.
Become
yourself.
I
have been trying to accomplish that task my entire life. You hear me, my whole
life. That has become my subconscious quest and divine mission. Only in recent
years has it become my mantra, repeating it over, again and again in my head. I
embrace it with a depth and passion as my own.
I desire to be the best mother, wife, sister, daughter, aunt, friend. . .
person. . . that I can be. I owe it to myself and I owe it to those around me,
the ones I touch with my spirit on my path to discovery and wisdom.
Become
yourself.
Something supernatural screams directly to my soul, with a mind of its own,
challenging me to make a difference. A positive difference. Life is too precious
to live and pass through in the blink of any eye, and nothing has changed. That
is simply not acceptable. You were simply a blink when you should have been a
bang. The world should be a better place simply because you were here.
Words, especially robust, passionate ones spoken from a place of wisdom, a place
of knowing. . . words that speak to strength and coming into one’s rightful
self. . . they wrap me cocoon-like in colorful, vibrant silks as they caress my
mental palette and stroke my very soul with the possibilities. Something primal,
from generations after generations gone by, remembers who I am suppose to be.
And I embrace it because I recognize its power.
Become
yourself.
I want to embrace my essence, live up to my fullest potential and beyond. Each
year of my life, I’m changing, growing, and evolving. That’s a good thing.
I’ve come to realize there is power in my words. They touch people. They make
people feel. My words incite emotion. A higher power has lovingly bestowed that
gift upon me and I gladly accept it and all the responsibilities that go with
it. Find yourself so that you can become.
Become
yourself.
What a beautiful world we would live in if we all did as much. We could create a
world of miracles and harmony. A utopia. Yes, such simple words, but oh, how
powerful upon closer examination, scrutiny and understanding.
I have a glorious destiny to live out, so do you. Become the beautiful spirit
you were meant to be. . . you don’t have to be extraordinary, you can be
ordinary, brown-braided. . . simply look within.
About
the Author Electa
Rome Parks lives outside Atlanta, Georgia and is the best-selling
author of six acclaimed novels, The Ties That Bind, Loose Ends, Almost Doesn't
Count, Ladies' Night Out, These Are My Confessions (anthology) and Diary of a
Stalker. Dubbed a "book club favorite," avid readers have embraced
Electa's true to life characters that tackle prevalent and heavy hitting issues
that take them on an emotional roller coaster.
The self-proclaimed Queen of Real, Electa has been a frequent guest on radio
shows, nominated for many industry awards and interviewed by numerous
newspapers and national magazines. Electa is currently following her passion and
working on her next novel and first screenplay.
Intimate Conversation with Nikkea Smithers
Nikkea Smithers is a dynamic award winning and Essence Magazine bestselling writer and spoken word artist, originally from Connecticut , currently residing in Richmond , VA. She has released several novels, poetry compilations and has contributed to several anthologies. Her writing style is unique as she uses her ability to play on words throughout each project. Her novels flair with the explicit details of life told through her characters’ eyes. Visit the author's website at: www.nikkeasmithers.com for more book excerpts and event details.
BPM: What makes you powerful as a person and a writer? What drives you to write?
I truly believe in walking by faith and not by sight. I trust in God to direct me in whatever way he sees fit. I often write books so far in advance with no real clue as to when I may release it because I wait until my faith leads me to move in that direction. When it comes to my writing, I'm driven by the message, even as I push myself in different genres, the message is the guide.
BPM: What have you realized about yourself since becoming a published author?
I've discovered that I can't put a lid on my creativity. I have learned that there is power and freedom in just doing. I'm inspired daily just with the fact that I'm doing it, I'm living my dream and refuse to let any obstacle stop me.
BPM: Besides the creative process, what is the most gratifying aspect of being a writer?
When I get feedback from readers and they 'get' my vision and share my excitement I am in awe. Writing is my form of therapy so to know that I've touched someone else's life with what I had in me is very liberating!
BPM: Do you have any advice for people seeking to publish a book?
Research, follow your hearts desire, and do it! Anything worth having in life will be a challenge, your job is to not let that challenge stifle your hearts desire.
BPM: How do you define success or personal happiness?
Success is meeting your own personal goals, not defining your life by someone else's mile markers. We are truly happy when we do what we desire, nourish what makes us feel good, and don't live with regrets because every experience is a learning curve.
BPM: Hot Seat: Share with us one thing most readers don’t know about you?
I am a Master of All Trades. I'm a licensed hairdresser, spoken word artist, actress, graphic artist, marketing and finance specialist, jewelry maker, music producer, music engineer, mentor, motivational speaker, I've even done professional modeling. I believe if something interest me, nothing can stop me from learning it (often self-teaching) and mastering it before I move on to the next.
BPM: Introduce us to your book, The Misery of Amore's Demise.
This is the first book in what I call, The Detective Booker Series. I have always loved the Murder Mystery genre, in books, television and movies. In this book I showcase a positive black man as the male lead character doing it big. He is the go-to-guy when it's time to solve the hardest cases because he looks at things with a nonbiased but critical eye. In this first installment of the series I introduce the readers into how his life and give them a peek into what makes him so complex.
BPM: Who are the major players? What are two major events taking place?
Aside from Detective Booker, the deceased is the biggest character. Amore is larger than life and death. She loved hard, and her death is wrapped up in so much controversy it keeps the detectives spinning. There is nothing simple about the way she died. One major event is back tracking what happened the night that she was murdered. The second major event takes place between Detective Booker and his ten year long girlfriend Rose. Their relationship is as complex as the case he is working on.
BPM: Are your characters from the portrayal of real people or experiences?
No. This book is completely composed of creative energy however it does deal with some controversial matters that have happened in the news only I have pushed them to the extreme. I wanted to deliver a message of tolerance and love in this book while looking at every persons perspective.
BPM: What compelled or inspired you to write The Misery of Amore's Demise.
This story came to me a few years back and it had a completely different title back then. I didn't revisit the concept until I decided to complete the book. I was thinking about how far society has come as it pertains to diversity and culture, but also how far we still have to come. I'm always fascinated with how and why people do the things that they do. I feel that we have now come to the point in our culture where we can talk about differences without being too closed minded to understand others point of view. I feel that this is the type of book where everyone could read regardless of their morals, preferences or backgrounds and be able to enjoy it while being enlightened in the process.
BPM: Who do you want to reach with your book and the message within?
I'm hoping to appeal to the human desire to love and be loved that's inside of everyone. I re-titled this book The Misery of Amore's Demise because all Amore ever wanted to be is loved. Unfortunately because of the lifestyle that she lived, and even with her level of honesty, love could not come freely to her. Still, she dealt with it even though others could not handle or fathom her desire to just be happy and be loved.
BPM: What should readers DO after reading The Misery of Amore's
Demise?
After reading this book they should love without limits. I mean truly and honestly love the people in their lives, themselves, their children, without limits. Love is supposed to be unconditional but we put so many restrains on it. I love you if...you do things my way, do what I want you to do, be how I want you to be. What about just loving people the way they are? If we can get back to love the way that it's supposed to be we will enjoy that much better.
BPM: What insight does the book give readers on being honest?
Amore was very focused on being honest and truthful in everything that she did. Whether people accepted it or not she didn't care, but she demanded respect for her choices. Readers will be forced to look at their own relationships and evaluate how honest, truthful and happy they are.
BPM: Share with us a quote or brief excerpt from one of the most powerful chapters.
Shanti paused, collected herself even. She didn’t want to break down in front of the group that was already trying to hold back their tears. Continuing she said, “But I don’t believe that it was love that took my dear friend away. You see love works in mysterious ways. And I can truly say that Amore loved hard. And when you love hard, there is no moment that you should take for granted. And for that, Amore will always be honored, right here.”
Ebonee Monique graduated from Florida A&M University with a Bachelor of Science degree in Public Relations. She was nominated as Breakout Author of the Year for African American Literary Award Show in 2009. Prior to becoming a published author, Ebonee Monique served as Morning Show Host and Operations Manager for WANM 90.5FM in Tallahassee, Florida and produced an on-air weekly entertainment segment on TOUCH 106.1FM in Boston, MA. She currently lives in the state of Florida.
BPM: What makes you powerful as a person and a writer?
To be honest with you, I don’t think I have super-powers when it comes to being a person or a writer. I think the beauty in my writing, however, is that I’m real & honest. I’m not going to write about something that I wouldn’t see in my everyday life or experienced by people around me. I write about what I experience, what I’ve witnessed first-hand and what I know my peers & I are currently going through. There’s beauty in reality. True enough, people read books to escape reality…but reading a book about someone else’s reality and experiences is just as exhilarating as a bogus over-the-top book.
BPM: Who are your mentors? Where do you find your inspiration?
I was blessed enough to meet Sheneska Jackson (Lil’ Mama’s Rules, Blessings, Caught up in the Rapture) when I was a teenager. She took me under her wing and-whether she knows it or not-she helped mold me into a writer & a believer in dreams. When I didn’t think I could pursue a career as a writer, I would read her story and push through. So, Sheneska played a big part in me being who I am as a writer. Also, my grandmother Margaret Curle was a published poet and I’m convinced I picked up an ounce of her talent. My husband, parents, god-children & brother are also my unsung hero. I find inspiration in their words & love. They inspire me to dream.
BPM: Success leaves clues, whose clues did you follow on your journey?
Sheneska Jackson. I was a teenager when I ‘Caught up in the Rapture’ and her voice was so reminiscent of my own; it was the first time I thought I could actually do this. I studied her story of making it and her persistence to her craft and did what I had to do to make what I wanted to happen, happen.
BPM: What have you realized about yourself since becoming a published author?
That I’d much rather the attention be on my books than on me!
BPM: What is the most rewarding aspect of your career?
When people write me and say “I REALLY enjoyed your book, it touched me and helped me learn something.” With my first book ‘Suicide Diaries’ I had a lot of people tell me they didn’t realize suicide was such an issue in the minority community. To know that my words-my story-helped bring that to even one person’s attention, is major for me.
BPM: Do you have any advice for people seeking to publish a book?
If you want to write; write. Nothing is stopping you from writing and publishing your book but your own fears. People tell me all the time “I wish I could write a book” or “I’ve always wanted to write a book.” And my question to them is…”Why aren’t you?”
Before every Terry McMillan, Sheneska Jackson or Victoria Christopher Murray were big names they were just people with dreams of writing.
BPM: If you were not a writer, what would you be?
If I wasn’t a published writer, I’d still be a writer. It’s in my DNA. I’d probably still be in radio, though.
BPM: When you have completed a project, how do you celebrate?
A glass of wine and a few good episodes of my favorite TV shows (Glee, The Office, The Game, Friends & Boondocks)
BPM: Hot Seat- Share with us one detail about you or a hobby readers would enjoy.
When I have the time, I plan events (weddings, baby showers, conferences, special events, branding launches.). I’m naturally a free-spirit, but this is the one time I become Type A and very, very anal about organization & the flow of things! J
BPM: Finish this sentence- “My writing offers the following legacy to future readers...”
Dream big & Snatch it. There’s always something to write a book about; the trick is writing it so people can feel, taste and touch it like they’re right there experiencing it all with your character.
BPM: Introduce us to your book Blitz. What genre is the book? On Kindle or Nook?
The story of Blitz isn’t one that we haven’t read before. We have. We see it every day in our lives, in the lives of our friends & family members and in the world that surrounds us. We’ve all known someone who has come from nothing and risen to something—with possibly secrets hiding out. You’ll meet Mia, a millionaire single mother who is trying her best to maintain the lifestyle she worked so hard to achieve, while also giving her daughter, Brandi, everything she can ever dream of.
This story gives a clear glimpse into the perks and setbacks of one can encounter climbing the ladder away from the past. Also, it touches GREATLY on single motherhood and teenage pregnancy, which are things-I think we all can agree on-that are prevalent in our society today. Although I wasn’t a teen mother, a lot of the judgment that the teen mom, Brandi, faces in the book- - all because I did make mistakes growing up. A lot of the scenes of judgment in the book were ripped right from my diary.
BPM: Take us inside
Blitz. What are two major events taking place?
The discovery of Brandi’s pregnancy and the dramatic “rediscovery” of her long-lost father, Branson, are probably the most dramatic events in the book. They will make you stop, think & break down how YOU would handle the situation if the stilettos were on your feet.
BPM: Are your characters from the portrayal of real people or experiences?
For the most part, the characters are from experiences-people I’ve known, interacted with and/or read about. Some of the scenes in the book are ripped straight from my diary as a teen- - I can vividly remember being judged because of a dumb teenage mistake. The lesson is two-fold…be aware that every decision has a consequence, so be smart about your choices; and those quick to judge forget that they were at once judged.
BPM: What compelled you to write this book?
The story came to me as a short story at first and I had so many people asking me to write more that I decided to see if I could expound upon this dynamic story of a single affluent mother, whose only desire is to make sure her daughter wants for nothing, who just so happens to have a pregnant teenage daughter. Teenage pregnancy doesn’t just happen within a certain bracket and-despite what people think-it’s our reality. The story told itself.
BPM: Who do you want to reach with your book, Blitz and the message within?
Anyone who’s ever strived to be and have more and stumbled on the path…this book is for them. While it deals with single motherhood and teenage pregnancy, one of the most dynamic side-stories deals with Mia’s hesitancy to give her long-time boyfriend, Charles, a child of his own. So, on top of the dynamics of a mother/daughter struggle, you get a glimpse into Mia’s love life.
BPM: What insight does the book give readers on relationships?
With change comes sacrifice, with sacrifice comes success. You have to change what you’re doing and how you think in order to get a different outcome. You either have to accept change or dwell in the past and stay stagnant.
BPM: Share with us a quote from one of the most powerful chapters.
“I sat in that spot contemplating my life with Branson back in it. Would we have Sunday dinners together, like the movie Soul Food? Or maybe we’d end up being just like the Cosby’s, I thought. But I couldn’t recall an episode where Sandra, Denise, Vanessa or Rudy brought home a man who beat on them and yet they tried to make him apart of the family. No way. Heathcliff would’ve had a fit over that.
Damn, I thought, why couldn’t Bill Cosby have scripted my life? The perfect brownstone, family, job and activities; the Cosby’s had it all. There was little, to no, drama. They always resolved their problems in thirty minutes and the family just always seemed happy. I wanted to be on whatever they were on.”
BPM: Ultimately, what do you want readers to gain from your book, Blitz ?
To grasp what we already know…everything shiny isn’t a diamond and things that look perfect may have a hairline fracture of a crack. Nothing in life is perfect…nothing; once we accept that, we can start to embrace flaws.
BPM: Share with us your latest news or upcoming book releases.
I will be in Newark, NJ August 20, 2011, at The Key Club for the annual Peace in the Storm Publishing soiree!
We will be mingling with our readers, have live entertainment and will be signing books!
Blitz is available for pre-order now through my website www.eboneemonique.com
or www.peaceinthestormpublishing.com
The book will hit shelves June 2011. I will also be hitting the road starting in June 2011 for the “Blitz” book signing tour!
Sleepless Nights: The Drew
Smith Series by Norwood Holland
Trial attorney Drew Smith a solo practitioner takes on a
client charged in heinous robbery and a string of murders. While frolicking with
an exotic dancer Smith battles a midlife crisis, and complicating things he
discovers the dancer has a dangerous and tenuous connection with his client. A
tale of love, sex, jealously, betrayal, murder and revenge ending in courtroom
drama.
Sleepless
Nights, the first released of the four volume Drew Smith Series, is loosely
based on DC’s infamous 2003 Colonel Brooks Tavern murders. The protagonist in
Norwood Holland’s new novel is like no other before.
An African American attorney managing a successful solo practice finds himself
enmeshed in complicated relationships and complicated cases. A stark difference
from other fictional detectives Drew Smith is a distinctly new type,
professional, single, urbane, a good looking playa charming the ladies, clients
and Judges alike all in the pursuit of justice.
Drew Smith takes on shady clients solving cases fraught with danger and romantic
intrigue. The legal wizard, while frolicking with an exotic dancer succumbs to a
midlife crisis. Haunted by nightmares foreshadowing an awakening reveals an
empty life prodding Smith to find solace in the arms of therapist Zoe Settles.
Life gets more complicated when the attorney is pressed into service solving a
vicious robbery that leaves three dead and the city enraged. Drew Smith and his
devoted sidekick Julio Mejia work to free his young client on the trail of a
crazed gunman responsible for a growing body count. In the end, the gunman and
the dancer combine forces to bring Smith down. When death comes knocking Drew
Smith faces the fight of his life.
A break out novel, Sleepless Nights abounds with despicable and lovable
characters plus all the universal elements: love, sex, jealously, betrayal,
murder and revenge. It has a narrative depth that sets it apart from the current
flood of Urban Fiction. The author conveys a dark hard-boiled view of the
underside, sprinkled with sex and violence, elements that make the contemporary
genre popular among the teen and 20 something as well as the mature readers
looking for a well written hardboiled yarn with compelling characters.
Here is an excerpt from Sleepless Nights: The Drew
Smith Series, Chapter 3 where the dramatic intensity and suspense ramps up
and carries the readers interest through the end.
Chapter 3
Sunday, August 6, 5:00 a.m.
In the night’s last darkness, Drew Smith bolted up from a deep sleep. Sweat
beaded his forehead and his hands were shaking. It was the dream again. He eased
back, baffled and bothered. Medhat had been dead for more than twenty years and
yet from time to time his old buddy would pay him these haunting visits. What
was it all about?
He had never felt so alone, bereft, and shaken.
Then a thought and a smile came over him. He was looking forward to spending the
afternoon with Julio, Chevy and the kids. Morning came blue-gray across Rock
Creek Park’s treetops, bringing the promise of sunlight.
* * * *
Sunday, August 6, 6:00 a.m.
Not far across town, Mrs. Viola Whisonant suffered a mild asthma attack and
couldn’t sleep. The octogenarian decided to sit in her rocker near the open
window of her second-floor bedroom. Six a.m. according to her clock, and soon
she would go downstairs, prepare her tea and toast, and then get ready for Mass.
For the moment she decided to just rock and watch the sunrise, pray her rosary,
and thank the good Lord for giving her another day. As she puffed on her
inhaler, something caught her attention down on the street. The rocking stopped.
She put on her glasses, moved the wavering sheers aside, and leaned in to watch.
* * * *
Sunday, August 6, 6:30 a.m.
Jinx and Tyrone quickly crossed the parking lot to the rear kitchen entrance of
the Farragut Tavern. Each checked the other’s mask, and with an “Okay,”
Jinx pulled his Glock 17 from his waistband and released the safety. Tyrone did
the same. The door was open and kitchen activity could be heard. Jinx tried the
screen door but it was latched.
With the barrel of the gun, he tapped on the frame and stepped back out of view.
Tyrone too pressed his back against the wall. The doorway darkened as someone
appeared. The latch lifted, a head stuck out and met the barrel of Jinx’s gun.
Naomi’s mouth dropped open.
“Oh, Jesus.”
“Back up.” Jinx flung the door open and with the gun in her face forced her
back into the kitchen.
“Oh Jesus.”
Her fear coursed through his veins like a jolt of speed. The big dark-skinned
bitch with the feisty attitude, who once gave him orders, was now taking orders
from him.
“Everybody down on the floor!”
Josh the chef, Naomi the cook, and Rodney the dishwasher were the only three in
the small kitchen. The intruders had interrupted the busy preparations for the
Farragut’s famous Sunday brunch. Biscuit mix still covered Naomi’s hand as
she tried to towel it away. Always in demand, her biscuits were a brunch staple.
Jinx watched as she lowered her heft down onto the floor. Rodney and Josh did
the same, all looking stunned. ...
Ella:
Welcome Lesley Hal author Pleasure Principles.
Tell us a little about your main characters in Pleasure Principles. Who was your favorite?
Bianca Brooks was stood up at the altar five years before the story takes place. In order to deal she decides to take on a love
'em and leave attitude until she meet the Sims. She start with having a relationship with Taylor Sims then with Taylor's husband, Eric Sims. The Sims have no idea that they're seeing the same person until the funk hits the fan. The Taylors are not the only ones keeping Bianca there's her neighbor Brandon and his girlfriend Raquel, Tony, and many others My favorite characters in the book are Bianca's best friends Cody and Reggie. They're zany and were a lot of fun to write.
Ella:
What inspired you to write this story?
My short story Stormy Weather that started my leap into erotica. That story received
a lot of praise when it was featured in Noire's online magazine back in 2006. That surge of welcomed energy gave me the courage to submit Riding the Friendly Skies which also features Bianca to Zane, which went on to become part of the NY Times bestseller "Succulent" Chocolate Flava II.
Ella:
What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
How we take sex, friendship, vows, loyalty, and our self worth for granted. More importantly, the consequences that can arise from being careless and it's not always a disease. I basically wrote the book to bring
awareness in other areas that we never think about, like what it can do to your loved ones when you act irresponsibly etc.
Ella: What was your primary quest in publishing this book?
The love of others enjoying what I do best and to bring awareness. No matter what I write about, be
it erotica or bitchy divas there will always be a message to be learned.
Ella: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp?
To not take people for granted and just protect God's most precious gift...your body. Don't use sex as a means to heal what's mental; you'll only end up hurting yourself more.
Ella: What sets your book apart from other books in your genre?
I write quality books that'll give you your money's worth. After all the dust from hype settles, it's the authors that made you hate when the book ended that'll stand the test of time and I plan to be one of them.
Ella: What was the most powerful chapter or scene in the book for you?
When the baby is stolen from the hospital as a result of Bianca's transgressions.
Ella: Do you write full time? Describe your writing schedule for our readers.
I have a 9 to 5, I plan to be able to write full time when the Lord bless me with the opportunity. As for my schedule, I write on breaks, after work and on the weekends.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
Read, shop spend time with family and friends and be the social butterfly I am never meeting a stranger. : )
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
Join writing groups like Raw4all and do your research. Don't fall for every sap that comes along promising you the world. Another thing...if you can do it yourself why pay someone else? It may be tedious, but in the long run, you'll appreciate what you do more.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
The latest news is my secret collaboration with author N'Tyse, Pleasure Principles and Blind Temptations 2 all being released in 2010.
My biggest literary accomplishments is the positive feedback from fans regarding "Blind Temptations "the Seduction of Sex, Lies & Betrayal, becoming a NY Times bestseller with the help of the Queen erotica herself, Zane when I was one of the featured authors in
"Succulent" Chocolate Flava II, organizing the buy-a-book campaign in Dallas at Jokae's book store, Tulisoma and other events I've done to promote literacy.
You saw how naughty Bianca was in the short story Stormy Weather and the sizzling anthology "Succulent" Chocolate Flava II. Now see what she's up to in Pleasure Principles as she tries to keep a married couple from finding out that the person they're cheating on each other with is her! http://www.pleasureprinciplepublishing.com
Intimate Conversation with Joyce Fields
Born and raised in Detroit, Michigan,
Joyce Fields has been in love with reading and writing virtually all her life. Joyce coupled her love of writing with her desire to help people improve their lives, resulting in her authoring six books.
Here, she discusses one: The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go
(among other things).
In The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go
(among other things), Joyce shares her experiences and observations, based on a 53-year relationship (43 years of marriage) with the same man--and the fire is STILL hot, hot, hot!
Based on these experiences and observations, she thinks that 80% of the success of a relationship rests on the shoulders of the woman.
The book explains why. Joyce has included 21 pages of her own recipes at the end of this 64-page book.
The preview and rave reviews are accessible at the website that she shares with her sister, Anita Jones, who is also an author.
What inspired you to write this
story, The Best Way to Keep a Man is to Let Him Go?
I was inspired to write this story because so many females seem to be in love with love and don't understand that, as young girls, many of us dream and talk of the day when we will be married and have kids, but boys don't do this. Young men don't dream of becoming husbands and fathers. We have to show them that the relationship is worth it.
What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
The high divorce/break-up rate could be lower if more females understood that men do not mature as quickly as we do. Women must find happiness within themselves; they cannot expect a man to make them happy. Men can enhance our happiness; they cannot create it.
What writers inspire you and why?
I am inspired by Dr. Maya Angelou and Dr. Wayne Dyer because they both speak to the spirit of the individual and inform us of the immense power that we hold due to our connection to God.
What did you hope to accomplish by writing this particular story?
Based on the reviews, this book is accomplishing what I hoped it would: to give females some tips on building and maintaining a healthy relationship with their man. To get the ladies to understand that they cannot expect to make hefty withdrawals if they have not made hefty deposits into the health and peacefulness of their relationship with their man.
Share with us your latest news or upcoming book releases.
I have written and released five other books. The previews and reviews for all of them are available at the Web site. The non-fiction titles are:
Mother's Dozen: An Easy Recipe for Raising GREAT Kids!
This book is also available in Spanish. The Spanish title is Madre Docena:
iUna Receta Facil Para Criar a Ninos Magnificos!, THE VISION: Telling Kids That They Can Make the World a Better Place, and Line of Serenity.
One children's fiction title: Jette Black and Her Seven Friends.
James W. Lewis
is a novelist and freelance writer published in several books. After spending twenty years in the Navy, James retired from active duty and now moonlights as an assistant personal trainer while completing his studies in Kinesiology.
BPM: James, introduce us to your new book,
Sellout.
SELLOUT follows a black woman, black man and white woman who face the consequences of dating outside their race. In the quest to find what they think is missing in their lives, they encounter guilt, fear and struggles they never anticipated...including murder.
SELLOUT also offers a comprehensive look at interracial dating, revealing an inside view on how racial stereotypes and prejudice impact relationships within and outside the race. Sometimes, stereotypes influence people to "jump the fence."
BPM: What motivated you to write the book?
While in the Navy, I worked at a duty station where about 80% of the black men were dating outside the race (about twenty of us total). I was one of the few married to a black woman. One of the guys told me about his messy divorce and he said he was never going to date another black woman again. It seemed like the brothers were running away from black women. I found this "flight to the white" disturbing and intriguing at the same time. Were these men running away? That experience gave birth to SELLOUT.
BPM: What issues in today's society does your book address?
Although we live in the age of Obama and a multi-ethnic society like never before, we are still not color-blind. Remnants of the Jim Crow past creep up daily and some people just can not stand the sight of racial mixing, especially between blacks and whites. Still, there's been an increase in marriages between black men and white women. And even though statistics show black women as least likely to date interracially, that trend is changing as well.
BPM: What was your primary quest in publishing this book?
To open a dialogue about interracial dating and uncover why some people are so quick to abandon their own race (in regards to finding a mate). I wanted to understand the difference between personal preference (for another race) and flat-out refusal to date within the race. I've learned these refusals mostly stem from negative stereotypes.
BPM: Who did you write this book for? Why?
I wrote the book not just for black women, black men and white women, but for anyone who may be curious about interracial dating and those who've done it. With SELLOUT, I believe most people will identify with at least one of the characters (including the supporting cast), even if the reader is of a race other than black or white. Attitudes toward miscegenation spans across all color lines.
BPM: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?
My main message is this: It doesn't matter what race you are, EACH race has its bad apples. I don't think any race is superior, especially in regards to finding a potential mate. People should not be so quick to believe in stereotypes as if they are completely true.
James W. Lewis
The Pantheon Collective
www.pantheoncollective.com
Think you Know how to Handle a Stalker?
DO's and DONT's
by author Electa Rome Parks
DO
List
• Be firm -- This is one time you should not be kind or gentle! Be Firm! Tell your stalker NO once. And stop any other contact by you, the stalker feeds on contact! Trying to be nice allows the obsessive stalker to hear what he/she wants to hear, not the NO.
• Cut off all contact -- Stalkers don't care what kind of attention they get, as long as it's SOME attention. Firmly reject the stalker, and cut off all contact.
• Pay attention to all early warning signs, that indicate that over bearing annoying attention may soon turn into full blown stalking!
• Keep your address private -- Use a postal box instead of residential address on everything. Give your address only to your most trusted friends.
• Get an answering machine that records on a cassette -- If you are being harassed put a beep tone on your line and let the caller know that the call is being recorded.
• Guard your e-mail -- If you are being cyber stalked, change your e-mail to something that is hard to guess, and do not put any personal information on on-line profiles.
• Keep a diary -- Record every stalking incident and names, dates, and times of contact. Save a tape of all the phone messages and packages sent to you by the stalker.
• Secure your home -- Trim the bushes around your house. Always lock the doors with dead bolts. Use window locks on basement and ground floor windows.
• Secure your vehicles -- Always lock your cars. Look carefully inside before entering. When you travel to and from work, vary your schedule and route. If possible, get a gas lock, and lock your gas tank. Never be afraid to sound your car horn to attract attention.
• Do take the stalking seriously. It is better to play it safe. There are stalkers that stalk for years, and never physically harm the person. Then there are stalkers that can turn the stalking deadly. Use Caution, and don't minimize the act of stalking. You can obtain a restraining order, although there are pro's and con's with restraining orders too. The bottom line is, a restraining order is simply a piece of paper! Keep your senses, protect yourself! Be alert!
• Do Believe that a stalker can be violent, even if they have NEVER demonstrated violence!
• Do listen to your intuition!
• Do enlist the support of family, friends, etc. Everyone who knows and loves you should be alerted, and know these stalking Do's and Don'ts!
• Do Clearly REALIZE that the stalker is seeking YOUR attention, negative attention is better then none, and this is clearly how the stalker thinks! Do completely ignore any conversation, words, etc.
Just DON'T Respond at all!
DON'T
List
• Don't give out your telephone number -- get an unpublished and unlisted phone number. Never print your phone number on checks. If asked for a phone number, give your work number.
• Don't try to reason or plead with the stalker, it doesn't work, and will only edge him/her on more!
• Don't accept packages you did not order -- This includes flowers, gifts, and other things that you didn't order and sent to you by people other than your friends or family.
• Don't agree to meet the stalker in person -- Never, ever, agree to meet the stalker in person, even if he/she says it's to say good-bye for one last time.
• Don't have anything shipped to your home address -- Have packages delivered to your work address.
• Don't inflict self-blame! This is not your fault! Stalkers do not understand NO. They thrive on the shame and embarrassment you feel, they know this is how they keep their control!
**Visit the The AntiStalking Web Site for more information**
Diary of a Stalker by Electa Rome Parks
When best-selling author, Xavier Preston, meets his fanatic fan, Pilar, he gets more than he bargained for. What starts out as an erotic one-night stand quickly spirals out of control into a dangerous game of obsession and pain. . . with both parties playing to win.
Think you know what goes on behind the literary scene? Think again.
One Man, One Camera, One Mission
-- JANKS MORTON is a groundbreaking international and award winning documentarian. As founder of
iYAGO ENTERTAINMENT GROUP, LLC, he states "the company came into existence to reflect both the conscious and the unconscious soul of Black America.
JANKS MORTON has been in the entertainment industry for more than 20 years and is a much sought-after teacher, lecturer, commentator and motivational speaker. He has convened workshops, seminars and served as panelist and keynote speaker at colleges, universities, prisons, conferences, churches and community centers around the world.
BPM: What makes you powerful as a person and a writer?
I constantly (and very self-deprecatingly) refer to myself as “just an ordinary guy” so I don’t consider myself as anything extraordinary and I fall very short of the word powerful, especially as a writer. Technically, I am a social, political and spiritual family advocate who expresses himself through multimedia, and the book “Why He Hates You” just happens to fall into that definition. What I will say is that the redemption I have found through my faith, has allowed me to be in tune with the direction my father wants me to pursue.
BPM: Who are your mentors? Where do you find your inspiration?
My spiritual mentor is Pastor A.R. Bernard of the Christian Cultural Center in Brooklyn, NY. Between his direction and the plethora of personal stories in the Black Community, my plate stays pretty full. Our people inspire me every day.
BPM: Finish this sentence- My writing offers the following legacy to future readers...
My writing and my films offers the following legacy to future readers...As a student of history, I understand the sage adage “Until lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify the hunter” I want my works to be able to be looked upon by twenty second century Blacks as a resource for a specific reflection of what was transpiring in our community at this moment in time.
BPM: Introduce us to your book, Why He Hates You!: How Unreconciled Maternal Anger is Destroying Black Men and
Boys.
Black Men and Boys are angry…Why? Because they have been forced to repress and bury deep in a place never discussed a burning and fiery angst towards their parents. Stated simply, they HATE their parents. Janks Morton in his semi-autobiographical work tackles head on the taboo subject of maternal resentment in the African American community.
Why specifically maternal resentment? A generation of young black children have been raised exclusively by single-mothers. Morton acknowledges while that some of these children’s antipathy may be directed towards the non-residential fathers, predominantly the object and the focus of a young black boy’s rage is directed squarely at the person responsible for their guidance, their direction, their socialization, their joy and their pain. Their primary care givers and providers – their Mothers.
Official synopsis:
Morton’s narrative of searing personal stories offers a pathway to a larger conversation that for far too long has been held sacred… Morton’s talking truth describes the traumas young boy’s experiences with angst-creating parental techniques such as negotiation, manipulation, and castigation. Parental approaches that are too often utilized in the single parent home and are the well springs to the seas of resentment. The Author’s hopes is through sharing intimate and personal details from his own life, readers can begin to acknowledge the unresolved,
unreconciled, and unrecognized parental resentments that can debilitate and shackle their lives. Morton’s personal stories shake loose those things unremembered, and unrecalled to help readers understand the power of forgiveness in order to walk the path towards restoration.
BPM: Introduce us to the primary message in your book.
The primary message of “Why He Hates You” is reconciliation through forgiveness. Now if I could just encourage more women to get past the title and jump into the narrative, the story would begin a renaissance and restoration between children and their parents.
BPM: Share with us two life enhancing sections from Why He Hates You.
1. After passing through the process of forgiveness, I had to understand that I was only able to forgive those things that I was consciously aware of, and that faint sound that appeared from time to time, were the roaring sirens of the repressed. Things that are in the subconscious, things unrecalled that still echo and can trip up your walk and potentially tempt your faith.
2. If any part of your past is unreconciled and you have not made peace with those things that have hurt you, those same things someday will manifest themselves to hurt you and someone else. Hurt people, hurt people.
BPM: What led you to create this book now?
I had been on the lecture circuit for a couple of years, and strangely enough, women constantly would ask me “where is the book” expanding upon my lectures. I think the opening chapter I explain that I like to do several things, but writing is not one of them. It came to a head when a woman explained to me that my lecture had the intensity and fervor of a southern Baptist tent revival, but she couldn’t recall a single lesson I had taught. So I understood at that juncture, I needed a resource for people to consume in their own space.
BPM: Who should read Why He Hates You and why?
Men, Women, Parents, grandparents and all races. There is a crippling and debilitating cultural mantra that has emerged over the past forty years that has rendered a generation of people into permanent children who can never relate to their parents in a healthy and adult fashion. As I detail throughout “Why He Hates You” if there is any resentment residing in you towards either parent, you ultimately will become a slave to your own bitterness. Hate your mother, marry your mother to state it simply.
BPM: What impact will this book have on the community of readers?
I have seen the power of words to transform lives. And the peculiar thing is that it was words and actions that leads too many children to harbor unreconciled parental issues. As you follow me through my journey in the book,
hopefully the light of redemption that was cast upon me, will open a doorway for the reader to find their own pathway to reconciliation.
BPM: What was your primary quest in publishing this book?
To dismantle the old business models that take creative control, do a poor job (if any) of promotion and fully exploit any
auteur of inspired works. I come from the record industry so I am biased against $2500 suit wearing exec’s who can’t tell you where middle C is on the piano.
BPM: Who did you write Why He Hates You for? Why?
I wrote it specifically for Men who have had challenges in their relationships as well as mothers of young boys, struggling trying to figure them out.
BPM: What message in your book do you want readers to share with others?
True healing, redemption and peace reside in forgiveness. The trick of the world is to keep you in a place outside of those things of good.
Confucius said “before you set out on a path of revenge, dig two graves”
BPM: What makes your book different from others on the same subject?
I don’t believe I have ever seen an author approach the subject matter from my lens. Throughout the book I intertwine the clinical (psychological) with the theological and show that they are two sides of the same coin.
BPM: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
I am back in filmmaker mode. My next film “We Need To Talk: A Messages to our daughters” is slated for release June 29th. I am not a big
hype guy, but as I am about 80% percent complete, I see this film as an absolute game changer. It is a series of vignettes from some very reconciled women, with specific encouragement, direction, love and guidance to the next generation of women coming along. I have never cried while filming subjects, until I met these ten beautiful women.
Excerpt of the novel, DEADBEAT
by Best Selling Author Brian W. Smith
Chapter 1: DEADBEAT
The left front wheel on the rickety shopping cart being pushed by the homeless man was damaged so badly it looked as if it would fall off at any moment. Pebbles were disintegrated as the damaged wheel slid across the concrete, while the other three wheels bore the brunt of the weight from the contents of the cart.
The homeless man pushing the cart seemed oblivious to the faulty wheel. With laser like focus he kept one eye on the contents of his mobile home while his other eye surveyed his surroundings - watching out for homeless thieves looking to steal some of his valuables.
The temperature was hovering around eighty degrees on this relatively mild summer day in New Orleans, but that didn't seem to faze the determined cart pusher. He wore a soiled black knitted cap to cover his nappy hair. With a nappy beard matted on his cheeks and chin, he resembled Marvin Gaye during his "Let's Get It On" days in the 70's.
His overcoat was tattered and missing several buttons. It was dark brown and stained so badly that black blotches on the lapel and sleeves could be seen from ten feet away.
"Hey my man," said his homeless neighbor, a plump white man with a beard that reached down to the center of his chest. The man was obviously a regular who knew the do's and don'ts of that area.
"Hey...is this spot taken?"
"Nope," replied the Santa Claus look alike. "It's yours if you want it. Watch your stuff - these little wild ass kids are all over the place today."
The city's less fortunate could be seen for nearly two blocks in the area commonly referred to as tent city. Located on Claiborne Avenue, city officials turned a blind eye to the refugee type environment that had suddenly sprung up just a little more than a mile from the touristy Bourbon Street area.
A few feet away, a slim teenage girl wearing jeans that were so tight she'd need to use a tub of grease to slide out of them, walked past. She was being hounded by an overbearing teenage boy.
"Come here girl! You need to stop playin' and give a nigga your phone number," said Bookie, the teenage boy who was unsuccessfully pursuing the girl.
Bookie was a short, thin framed, hot tempered teenager. He was one of those kids that stayed in so much trouble, even the most patient adults would lose their cool after more than thirty minutes in his presence. This kid couldn't spell tact, let alone display it. He had a Napoleon complex that was destined to lead him down the path of incarceration or an early death.
Sigmund Freud theorized that, 'The ego expels whatever within itself that becomes a source of displeasure.' Bookie's constant rejection made him feel smaller than his physical stature displayed. Picking fights was his way of deflecting attention away from his size.
"What y'all lookin' at?" Bookie shouted, after he realized that his failed attempt at courting the young girl had been witnessed by many of the itinerant citizens who called tent city their home.
"What you lookin' at old man?" Bookie asked, as he looked at the long bearded homeless man.
The man wisely didn't reply. He simply turned, looked down at the ground, and staggered away. As with most impoverished areas in major cities, the rules of survival are simple: mind your own business; don't start a fight you can't finish; mind your own business; and most importantly, mind your own business.
History had proven that pretending to ignore the juvenile delinquency swirling around them was a sure way to extend the life expectancy of the homeless onlookers.
While Bookie looked around for some other indigent person to pick on, his partners in crime, Tweety and QJ, were a block away focusing on eating their evening meals.
Tweety and QJ were posted up against one of the massive concrete columns that held Interstate -10 suspended high above Claiborne Avenue. They were devouring foot long po'boy sandwiches and discussing the events of the day.
The intersection of Claiborne Avenue and Canal Street may have seemed like an odd place to eat a meal, but it was normal for these rowdy teens. It was their hang out spot. The place where they laughed, lied, and flirted with the girls who lived in the Iberville projects as they passed.
The honking horns and police sirens served as the soundtrack to their lives. The troubled teenage boys were oblivious to the poverty and despair that surrounded them as they basked in their youth.
Suddenly, their meals and tête-à-tête were interrupted.
"Get off me!" Bookie shouted, in a tone that sounded more like a high pitch squeal. The fear in his voice could be heard over the evening traffic. "Y'all come help me! This fool is tryin' to kill me!"
"C'mon, Bookie's in trouble," Tweety bellowed as he tossed his sandwich to the side, and started pouring the remainder of his coke out on the ground as he ran to Bookie's rescue.
QJ on the other hand, didn't seem to be as eager to throw away his sandwich. He'd been craving a hot sausage po'boy sandwich on French bread all day. He was about 2/3 of the way into it when Bookie started screaming like a little sissy.
"C'mon QJ!" Tweety shouted as he got closer to Bookie.
"I'm comin'...damn!" QJ replied as he stuffed a chunk of the sandwich into his mouth. "This is the best part of the sandwich - I'll be damned if I'm going to throw this sandwich away!"
He took one last swig of his pineapple flavored soda, and then jogged towards the mêlée. It wasn't that he was scared to scrap, but he knew his friends better than anyone. QJ had no idea why Bookie was getting his butt whipped, but he knew that Bookie probably started the fight.
Bookie was the smallest one in their cliché, but he had the biggest mouth. It seemed like every week Tweety and QJ were coming to his rescue. QJ was getting tired of it. Tweety on the other hand, got a kick out of it.
QJ's jog turned into an all out sprint once he saw what appeared to be a grown man slam Bookie's little 5'6" frame up against one of those columns. Bookie's jaws shimmied and his teeth rattled as his under developed body smashed against the immoveable object.
The man followed his WWF style body slam with a right hook that hit Bookie flush in the eye. It all looked like the scene from the movie Cooley High when "Cochise" was getting beat up under the bridge.
"Get the fuck off him!" Tweety shouted, and then smashed the coke bottle against the side of the man's head.
Bookie's attacker was the homeless man with the defective shopping cart. The man released his grip of Bookie and slumped to the ground - his hands clasping his right side of his head and ear.
Dazed from the beating he'd taken, Bookie slid down the column and landed on the seat of his pants. Blood spewed from a fresh wound above his left eyebrow like water flowing from a faucet.
Tweety was too busy unleashing a barrage of blows to the head and rib cage of the grungy looking man to see that Bookie was in need of serious medical attention.
"He tried to take my basket!" the man shouted as he lay curled up in the fetal position trying to protect himself from Tweety's attack. "I didn't want to hit him. He tried to take my stuff!"
That man's pleas for mercy were futile. He was about to get the type of ass whooping reserved for child molesters.
QJ helped Bookie stand up. The sleeve of his shirt was covered in Bookie's blood. Once it was clear to him that his injured friend could stand on his own, the two of them proceeded to joining in the beat down.
Bookie grabbed a piece of concrete that appeared to have broken off from the base of the column. The chunk of concrete was so big that Bookie had to use two hands to pick it up. QJ looked around and spotted a lead pipe a few feet away.
"Leave him alone!" shouted a wrinkled rundown looking homeless woman as she peeped out of her cardboard house. "Y'all leave him alone!"
"Fuck you!" shouted Bookie.
It would take more than a feeble request from a homeless woman to dowse this rage. Bookie's attention quickly shifted from that woman to the man who'd just split his eyebrow open.
QJ walked over towards the woman and grabbed the two foot long lead pipe.
"Move Tweety!" barked Bookie. "Let me at this fool!"
Tweety was so engaged in beating that man that he looked pissed at Bookie for wanting to get some of the action. Bookie lifted the huge piece of concrete above his head, and then smashed it down on the man's side.
The helpless man let out a wail that was so gut wrenching even QJ cringed. From where QJ stood, the homeless man looked like a pile of blood stained dirty clothes.
"Nigga come get some!" Tweety shouted, as he looked in QJ's direction.
QJ was usually the ring leader in their throw downs with rival fake thugs, but something about this was wrong....real wrong.
"Come get some QJ!" shouted Tweety again, as he and Bookie kicked the man in any part of his body that was exposed.
"Don't do it baby," the homeless woman pleaded as she looked at QJ.
Her appearance didn't command respect, but her tone did. It was the tone God reserved for grandmothers. The type of tone that would cause even the most hardened thug to pause, and at least reconsider his actions.
Unfortunately, at the age of fifteen, QJ didn't have the maturity needed to identify when one of God's angels was speaking to him. He looked at the woman, and then strengthened the grip he had on the pipe in his hand.
Just as his better judgment was about to kick in, QJ heard Bookie utter the one phrase that has prompted level headed teenage boys across this country to make stupid decisions.
"Tweety, that nigga QJ scared!"
Whatever common sense QJ possessed left him the moment he heard Bookie question his manhood.
"Scared?" QJ replied. "Nigga, move out of the way!"
QJ could barely see the man's face. The entire right side of his head was covered in his own blood. When Bookie and Tweety backed away, the man struggled to his feet.
"Knock his ass out!" shouted Tweety.
QJ gripped the pipe in his right hand and cocked back. He was so nervous his palms became sweaty - causing him to nearly drop the pipe.
"Hurry up!" shouted Bookie. "I can hear the police coming."
Bookie was right. Police sirens were getting closer. Traffic on Claiborne Avenue had come to a halt. In between the concrete columns that kept the interstate from crumbling and the cars that aligned the street, QJ could see the blue lights from the police car heading their way.
"C'mon QJ, bust his ass so we can go!" Tweety commanded, as he and Bookie started to back pedal. When QJ turned and looked back at them they were nearly jogging in the other direction.
"Don't do it son," said the homeless man.
"Shut yo ass up!" QJ retorted. "You split my boy's eye. I'm about to split yo head!"
"I only hit him because he tried to steal my stuff," the man said. "That stuff in that basket is all I got...since I lost you QJ."
Time seemed to stand still as QJ stood there with a perplexed look on his face. He thought he heard the man say, 'since I lost you QJ.'
Apparently QJ's facial expression reflected his bewilderment.
"What did you just say?"
"You heard me son. It's me - your daddy."
"What! Ma'fucka my daddy's dead!"
"I'm not dead QJ," he replied, as he tried to speak while spitting out the blood that had formulated in his mouth. "I'm Quincy - your daddy. Your mama's name is Carol. They call her Cookie. I'm the one who gave her that nickname when she was pregnant with you. All she ate during her pregnancy were cookies. That's when I started calling her Cookie."
At that moment, QJ felt like he was the one who'd been getting his ass beaten. Suddenly his knees became weak. His heart started to pound so hard it felt like it was trying to burst through his shirt.
The more he stared at the homeless man, the more he realized that he and the victim standing before him shared the same facial features. Their skin complexion was identical. They had the same thick eyebrows. They both had noses that were so wide they seemed to span the width of their faces. Only a DNA connection could explain the similarity in their thick - often chapped - lips. QJ thought he was seeing a ghost.
"Daddy - is that you?"
"Yes son it's me. Please don't do this...I'm your father."
"Run QJ!" shouted Tweety, as he and Bookie turned and dashed up the street.
QJ looked over the shoulder of this man claiming to be his father. The police officers had exited their vehicle, and were running towards them. Suddenly, the man who stood before QJ transformed from his potential victim into his protector.
"Run son," he said.
The boy could a feel a lump develop in his throat. His abdominal muscles tightened. Sweat beads begin to form on his forehead. A battle was taking place inside of him - one between his ego and his common sense.
"Go that way," Quincy said, and pointed across the street. "Run down that alley over there, and then turn left when you get to the dead end. That alley will lead you into the projects. Once you get in the projects they won't be able to find you."
There was a unique tone in the homeless man's voice; the tone that God reserves for fathers. The anger that had a strangle hold on QJ's emotions just a few seconds earlier dissipated. He felt tamed - like a child who'd just received guidance - from his father.
"Hey you!" shouted the cop.
"Run son. Run QJ."
QJ's fifteen year old legs felt like they were mired in concrete. Eventually he found the strength to run. He dropped the pipe, and started to gallop like an Olympic sprinter.
QJ followed his father's instructions. He darted across the street - dodging cars like a running back trying to make his way through the toughest defense. The boy didn't stop running until he was two courtyards deep into the projects.
When he was almost certain he was no longer being followed he stopped to catch his breath. Panting like a runaway slave, the scared child sat on the steps of an abandoned project building and tried to regain his composure.
I can't believe that's my daddy. Mama told me he was dead. Why did she lie? I almost killed him. My daddy is a homeless man.
QJ's perspiration soaked shirt was clinging to his chest. He could feel a bead of sweat as it trickled down the center of his forehead, and made its way along the bridge of his nose. Eventually, that sweat bead got tired of dangling from his nose and finally rested on his "peach fuzz" covered top lip.
He looked up and saw a few ladies perched in their second floor windows looking down at him. Their presence didn't bother QJ - he knew that they were probably peeking to see if he was one of their relatives running from the long arm of the law.
Although he was concerned about the police and their chase, a weird feeling came over the undisciplined youngster. For the first time in his life he felt safe...thanks to the quick thinking of his father - Quincy.
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Tips For Touching! 3 Ways to Improve Sex
For a Better Marriage By Addison Prescot
I have always said that better sex, makes for a better marriage. Tips for touching, can be extremely helpful in all kinds of ways. It was said that someone who is in tune with the power of touch could actually cause a woman or man to orgasm by touching only one square inch of their body without even going 'Down There'. This may be hard to believe but as far as medical science is concerned, its absolutely possible.
If you and your partner are experiencing any difficulties, or just want a better marriage in areas of sexual performance and climax; touching without having actual sex can help. Sex therapists recommend this as a technique for prolonging sex and improving your relationship all around. These tips for touching are easy to follow and simple to apply. They are also excellent for achieving results too.
Tips for touching!
1. Try to explore some sexual activity without having intercourse and without making orgasm your focus or goal. Reaching an orgasm can often become the sole focus or only aim of sex in our society. This is just plain wrong and not to mention too simple. This adds unnecessary pressure which will very likely result in performance anxiety and become an obstacle for both men and women.
Sex therapists often suggest this as a positive route to take in treating performance anxiety, sexual dysfunction, intimacy issues, stress, relieving tension and all kinds of other things that can alter your relationship negatively.
2. Learning the art of non-sexual touching. Non-sexual touching again helps with performance problems by taking pressure off the focus of orgasm and performance. This also rebuilds a pathway to reconnecting with each other emotionally and mentally. It helps you to feel good about each other and more comfortable with touching. It also helps boost confidence and self esteem. I always recommend facial touching, before during or even after sex.
Usually as a result the new, more relaxed attitude that couples achieve brings more enjoyment and they can more thoroughly understand each other sexually. Sexual understanding helps to achieve heightened levels of sexual enjoyment and understanding all around.
3. The art of Message. This is where it gets more intense. Everybody loves a good message but not everyone know how to give a good, adequate message. The thing is it can be learned like any skill. There are certain tricks to this trade that can be learned by both watching a professional message and getting one too. I recommend finding a good masseuse got together and each get a message from the same person. Only when your getting your message pay special attention to what they are doing. Be more observant whenever you feel yourself getting lost in it.
Also, do not be afraid to ask questions. Take notes if you can and find out the best techniques. In the end though, the best way to learn something is by getting some good information on the subject and DOING it. There is no substitute for direct experience.
There are many other ways of improving your sex life and this ultimately makes for a better marriage in the long run. Sex is a great way to express your love for each other and defeat stress and anxiety. Well, touching can help you improve in those areas too. Plus, sex is definitely touching. Learning the art of touching is fun and there are vast amounts of information in this particular area.
Better sex is definitely one way to a better marriage. Learn from an expert sex & relationship therapist that was featured on Oprah. Learn the best kept Secret Sex Tips that will heat up your marriage.
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How to Have Casual Sex Responsibly
By Rachel Goodchild
What? You can have casual sex responsibly?
Let's face it- so many people have it at least once or twice. It can be an incredible experience that leaves both people feeling great, or it can be a time of your life that can make you feel awful. So much of that is how you look after yourself before, during and after.
If you're not feeling emotionally resilient you're a train wreck waiting to happen. If you are going through a periods in your life where physical intimacy is the way you are band aiding up your heart while it's hemorrhaging everywhere else and having sex with randoms, waking up, regretting it, then doing it all over again week after week, you're not doing anything good for yourself
It's best to be sober, or at the most just a little tipsy. If you're completely blotto, catch a taxi and go home ALONE. We've all had friends who've woken up next to someone with no memory of how he got there. Which also means she can't normally remember if they used condoms. That is not having casual sex responsibly! Sex is good enough to have when sober, or slightly relaxed with one glass of wine- and you're more likely to have it with someone you actually find pleasant!
If you really like the guy, and they suggest you sleep with him, then you probably shouldn't risk it unless there is a relationship around it. Otherwise feelings are going to get all the more worse. If he's your top crush, and you've not gone on a date, or he's never asked you out, but suddenly wants to get in your pants, it's tempting. But it's really not going to do your heart any good.
It's best to verbally set up some rules before you have sex. One night stands with mates are far more problematic as you both have to have a fair amount of emotional maturity to cope with the next day pangs. Setting good boundaries is really important for your own emotional health
Always, always, always use protection. Carrying a condom in your handbag doesn't make you look like a slut. It's far less painful than having to slide into the chemist for the morning after pill, or getting checked for
STD's.
A good One Night Stand buddy is someone you aren't going to be embarrassed to see again socially. Our lives are full of accidentally bumping into people. Make sure anyone you sleep with is mature enough to be pleasant with socially after. Sex with a grown up is far better than having it with a 12 year old trapped in a 30 year old's body. And chatting afterwards is always nice and good.
Have it with someone completely attracted to you. And vice versa. That's the whole point really isn't it? You want to feel good after it. If you pick well you'll be feeling sexier, happier and more attractive for days.
If it's something you are doing with random people on a very regular basis take a look at
why. For some it's a stage in their life. But if it's the only thing making you feel good, it's probably good to take a wee break for a bit. Everyone needs a good hobby. Having casual sex responsibly once or twice however is different from compulsive random shagging which is perhaps not the healthiest hobby you can have.
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Got a problem you need help with? Rachel Goodchild, modern day agony aunt might be able to help! Pop along to her website
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Dealing With Infidelity - To Pardon
Or Not to Pardon is the Question
By Emma Audley
Dealing with infidelity is a major area of concern in any marriage, even when promiscuity, in several developed cultures is as commonplace as brushing your teeth. Some protagonists of extra-marital affairs say that infidelity is a great ego, confidence and performance booster, and it is perfectly acceptable, so long as you do not get caught!
Even when you know what to expect, infidelity, every time it happens, creates ripples around the people concerned, bringing shame and infamy to the families concerned. Of the people who are directly involved with infidelity, it is difficult to say who suffers most - as they are all dealing with infidelity in their own way, trying to bring sanity into their own little worlds.
Over and above the people who are directly involved in the 'affair', there are scores of others who try to barge in - giving advice, offering counseling help and so on. Of course, there are the inevitable other lot, who simply add their bit to the story and make it the juiciest topic for the next cocktail party in office.
You can either cheat or be cheated up on. While both the situations demand dealing with infidelity, the only change is in the perspective. In this article, let me talk about dealing with infidelity, when you have been cheated and now suffering from the eternal dilemma, which every victim of infidelity has to face: to pardon or not to pardon.
Though every individual has his or her own life story regarding how and why the extra-marital affair happened, etc., these hardly matter when it is ultimately a matter of making a choice. You too could be having your own rationale regarding dealing with infidelity. Nevertheless, you cannot deny that no matter whether you pardon or not, the 'affair' would impact your life in a number of ways in the future. Therefore, it is up to you to decide whether you can handle the post-infidelity era of the relationship maturely and with grace. Here are some points to ponder:
When you pardon:
• By pardoning the errant spouse, you have undoubtedly shown your undying love for your partner, as well as your forgiving attitude. However, dealing with infidelity would also involve how you handle your life with the same errant partner in future. Can you pardon unconditionally?
• Can you completely forget the episode while dealing with infidelity?
• Be very sure why you are pardoning. Is it because you feel pity for the 'helpless and distressed' spouse? Or is that you feel that everyone deserves a second chance?
• Are you prepared to walk that extra mile, making the necessary compromises in your behavior and attitudes, so that you can continue with the relationship?
When you do not pardon:
• First of all, you need to have very good reasons why pardoning the errant spouse is out of the question. Repetition of the same deed is a good reason; permanent incompatibility is another.
• Be prepared to face some ugly aftermath, depending on the kind of person your spouse is. Things can turn nasty, legally as well as emotionally.
• When dealing with infidelity, the question of not pardoning only comes up when you fail to see eye-to-eye with your spouse regarding the reasons for the affair to happen in the first place.
At the end of the day, dealing with infidelity requires a tremendous amount of patience, fortitude, grace and of course immense amount of love in case you want to continue living with the errant spouse. It is your call, what you want your life to be.
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I have a degree in psychology and years of experience as a therapist in couples and marriage counseling.
I gave up my career as a therapist when my older daughter became ill soon after she was born. Fortunately, she is perfectly healthy and a very happy child today.
I have since moved to another country and I have no plans to resume my career as a therapist. However, I still enjoy helping rejected lovers put their derailed relationships back on track.
Fables Regarding Cheating - The Facts and the Fictions
By Elaine Turner
"Men deceive greater and greater than females." "Cheating is simply and solely about coupling." "If he cheats one time, he'll certainly cheat again."
If you've anytime been involved in a relationship, you've heard a million varying facts about cheating. But are they all correct? Whereas most actually are, society - markedly when it is in regards to films and television shows -bolsters numerous "truths" regarding cheating that, in reality, are not accurate at all. Let's take a peek at a handful of the more common facts and fictions:
Cheating Myth #1 - Men cheat more than females: At one time this was true, however these days studies have confirmed that men and women cheat with appreciably proportionate frequency. They do, although, tend to have distinguishable rationales for their infidelity, and women are more inclined to feel sorrowful for their conduct (granted they are altogether more disposed to get away with it, as women have been ascertained to be better fibbers than men).
Cheating Myth #2 - Cheating is merely about intercourse: Clandestine coupling is an exhilarating idea for abundant people, but reasons for cheating basically tend to change between men and women. Men are better at separating the notions of love and sex in their thoughts, so it's positively possible for a man to have an affair that is solely pertinent to carnal enjoyment. Women, on the other hand, tend to affiliate the two ideas, and naturally have relationship because they are searching for some kind of emotional fulfillment that they feel they do not receive from their spouse.
Cheating Myth #3 - If he deceives once, he'll dupe again: Sorry girls...this one is undoubted!
Cheating Myth #4 - It is not cheating if there was not sexual intercourse: Emotional infidelity can be found even when bodily infidelity has not occurred. A person - male or female - can develop a profoundly, impassioned devotion (platonic though it may be) that transitions into emotional love whether or not sex is associated. This type of cheating frequently applies to open partnerships as well.
Cheating Myth #5 - Cheating implies he doesn't adore you: Being cheated on is a heartbreaking event, but it doesn't relentlessly mean that you aren't loved. As men are more capable of separating sex from romantic feelings, they find it simple to have a physical affair with somebody that doesn't impede with their emotional relationship with someone else.
Cheating Myth #6- Cheating can be a positive thing for a relationship: Nearly always false. All personalities entangled might learn a lot about themselves, their connections, and the type of people they want to date, but basically adultery means that one spouse didn't revere the other adequately to stick to an understanding - to be monogamous - they made with the other, and instead felt that lying and sneaking hereabouts were appropriate courses of action.
While it's expedient to retain these 6 ideas in mind if you happen upon infidelity, the most vital thing to consider is your own feelings. Do you surmise that he cheated? Are you pained by his actions? Do you feel that sexual union and adoration do not have to go hand-in-hand and therefore that multiple varieties of relationships are conceivably possible at once? You choose what comprises infidelity, and then react suitably.
Grand
Central is pleased to publish the sizzling novel SIXTY-NINE from the racy
veteran author Marissa Monteilh. Writing as Pynk, she tells the tale of
Magnolia, Rebe, and Darla- three ladies who are about to find out what it's like
to go beyond the missionary, and experience the very erotic side of a real life
sixty-nine.
It's New Year's Eve, the last day of 2008, and best friends Magnolia Butler,
Rebe Richardson, and Darla Clark, all born in 1969, are about to turn the
dreaded 4-0 in January 2009. Magnolia, a New Year's Day baby, is childless, and
always a bridesmaid, never a bride.
Rebe, the
mother of a college-aged daughter named Trinity, has just gone through a divorce
from a man whose sexual appetite far exceeded her desires and abilities. Darla
is also a New Year's Day baby, still mourning her husband's death after five
years.
After way too many glasses of champagne, Rebe, challenges them to open their
minds in a way they'd never done before, daring them to try something
new...sexually.
Sixty Nine is a liberating story about sisterhood and friendship, and
about how past experiences and beliefs can influence one's views about life and
sex.
About the Author:
Marissa Monteilh, writing as Pynk, is a former model, television news
reporter, and commercial actress. With six mainstream novels under her belt, she
continues to surprise her readers by proving the erotic possibilities to be
endless. Pynk resides in Georgia just outside Atlanta.
Reviews for SIXTY-NINE
by Pynk
Marissa Monteilh writes snappy, in-your-face, tough girl dialogue and steamy
sex." (Publishers Weekly )
"SIXTY-NINE is a liberating story about sisterhood and friendship, and
about how past experiences and beliefs can influence one's views about life and
sex." (Examiner.com )
Men Are
Abused Too
by Carla S. Pennington, author of The Available Wife
When people discuss domestic abuse, they automatically think
and assume that a woman is being physically abused by a man. This is not always
the case. Domestic abuse has different forms: physical, emotional, mental and
sexual. In relationships and marriages, not only are women abused but men are as
well. Although it is a current problem, it is a hidden crime.
There are many reasons why domestic abuse against men is unrecognized. It is
hard to get reliable estimates. Not enough is being done to encourage men to
report abuse. The idea of men being abused is unthinkable and astonishing to
most people that men do not attempt to report it. Men feel that no one will
believe them and some of them even feel ashamed because of the notion that they
will be seen as weak or unmanly. Men often escape a bad home life that they are
afraid of by spending extra time at work, staying in “their” space (garage,
den) at home, or even sleeping in the car or at a friend’s place.
Women abuse for many of the same reasons as men do-alcohol and/or drug abuse,
psychological disorders and unrealistic expectations and assumptions. Abusive
women make unfair demands on their partners and attribute most of their
depression and frustrations on them. They blame their partner rather than admit
their own insecurities, emotional problems, childhood traumas and/or current
substance abuse. They want their partner to make them feel whole rather than
take responsibility for their own lives.
Men stay in abusive relationships for the same reasons abused women do:
protecting their children, assuming blame (guilt prone) and dependency (or fear
of independence). If more men would report domestic abuse then more can be done
to help them. Abused men should be given the same treatment and resources as
abused women. Currently there are a few shelters, programs or advocacy groups
for abused men. Most abused men have to rely on private counseling services or
just deal with the abuse.
Community
Discussion:
What are your thoughts on the subject of domestic abuse toward men?
Have you experienced abuse in a relationship? What advice would you give someone
who is going through a break up?
Email your comments or questions to: edc_dg@yahoo.com.
Subject line: Men Deserve More Protection from Abuse.
Meet Author Carla S. Pennington
Carla S. Pennington was born and raised in Prichard, Alabama where she
continues to reside with her family. In 2005, Carla published her first novel,
Fling and from there several short stories which appeared in anthologies across
the country. Finally, she landed a book deal with Life Changing Books which
released the wildly anticipated novel, the Available Wife in January 2011.
Readers can reach Carla S. Pennington on FaceBook and Twitter as:
carlapennington. Email address: carlapennington@hotmail.com
Intimate
Conversation with
Marissa Monteilh
aka Pynk
Marissa Monteilh (Mon-tay), a former model, talk-show host, Fox-TV news reporter, and commercial actress, is the best-selling author of eight mainstream novels and two novellas. Marissa also writes erotica, Erotic City, and Sexaholics, under the pseudonym, Pynk. Originally from Los Angeles, she lives with her family in Atlanta, Georgia. Visit Marissa at
www.marissamonteilh.com or at
www.authorpynk.com
Ella: Introduce us to Sexaholics by Pynk.
Miki, Valencia, Teela Raye, and Brandi share one thing...they are all addicted to sex. United through
Sexaholics Anonymous, these women try to recover from their dependence on wild, spontaneous, and even sometimes, dangerous sex. From whips and chains, to sex in public, they have done it all! Led by Dr. Rachel Cummings, each woman takes the first step to recovery by sharing her biggest sexual act with the group.
Sexaholics, set in Los Angeles, takes readers through the outrageous experiences of four sex-drunk women, on their long path to rehabilitation.
Ella: What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
Issues of addiction, be it alcohol, shopping, overeating, gambling, or sex, are very popular today. We have a new reality show about sex addiction, and many celebrities, usually male, have admitted to being sex addicts.
Sexaholics gives you an inside look into the world of four women who are all addicted to sex. Their stories are dramatic and sometimes shameful, yet they could be your next door neighbor . . . or you.
Ella:
What was the most powerful chapter in the book for you? Was it
emotional for you?
The most powerful chapter in Sexaholics is a scene where one of the women crosses the line and allows her demons to alter her thinking to the point where the results change her life forever. I cried when I wrote this scene. That's only happened one other time in Something He Can Feel, and that scene was the one readers talked about most. It is my hope that this portion of Sexaholics, along with the rest of the book, will paint a vivid and valid picture of the shame and impact of reckless lust.
Ella: Do you write full time? Describe your writing schedule for our readers.
Yes, I write full-time. I wake up at about 8:00 a.m. and check emails, promote, follow-up on projects, etc. I usually write in the afternoon until late evening. I try not to write on the weekends but depending upon deadlines, a Tuesday is the same as a Saturday. I do make a point to spend quality time with family. That is a priority.
Ella: If you had to do it all over, would you change anything in your
book?
No, not at all. Actually, because there has been so much talk in the media regarding sex addiction, I usually take notes on the situation or when a professional speaks on the subject, just to make sure I've conveyed the causes and various choices of treatment as accurately as possible. I think it's important to show consequences for certain behavior so that sex addiction is not glamorized, though sometimes, just as in real life, some characters do not pay the price nor do they learn from their mistakes. Remaining unchanged is very common. And sometimes, that's just the way it is.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
My next Pynk book is called Sixty Nine, which is about three best friends, Magnolia, Rebe, and Darla, all born in 1969. They are about to turn the big 4-0. These women are sexually repressed, so whereas Sexaholics covers the oversexed, Sixty Nine shows us the undersexed lifestyles. On New Year's Eve, they vow to go beyond their narrow boundaries and thoughts about sex, which have kept them repressed, and experience their sexier sides. Sixty Nine comes out in March of 2011. Also, the long-awaited sequel to Hot Boyz, The Housewives of Ladera, hits the shelves in October 2010.
Pynk-- Winner of YOUnity Literary Legends award as the Fastest Rising Literary Star
EROTIC CITY was voted one of the Top Reads of 2008 by Black Expressions
EROTIC CITY - finalist - 2009 African American Literary Award in the category of erotica
SEXAHOLICS hits the shelves on March 23, 2010
Intimate
Conversation with Kia DuPree
Kia DuPree, a former assistant editor at St. Martins Press, received the Fiction Honor Book Award from the Black Caucus of the American Library Association for her debut, self-published novel, Robbing Peter, in 2005.
Kia's short story, Lost One, was recently included in #1 Essence bestselling author Shannon Holmes' anthology HOOD 2 HOOD, which was released in March 2008.
Kia holds a B.A. in Mass Media Arts from Hampton University, as well as an M.A. in English from Old Dominion University.
Kia currently resides in Washington, DC.
Ella: Introduce us to your new book, DAMAGED.
Camille Logan feels trapped. After she is sexually and emotionally abused by her foster parents, she turns to the one person she knows she can trust--her boyfriend Chu, a mid-level drug dealer. But when life finally starts looking up for Camille, Chu is brutally murdered. Again feeling abandoned and helpless, and refusing to return to the system, Camille finds herself living with a stable of women in a tiny run-down apartment building in Washington, D.C., working for Nut, a deranged pimp. Fed up with her life, Camille is forced to right her wrongs, and slowly learns that her past does not necessarily determine her future.
Ella: What inspired you to write this story, DAMAGED?
I was inspired after viewing a documentary about teenaged prostitutes. I wanted to write about how I felt these young girls ended up on the streets, desperate and lacking guidance from loved ones. I thought about my own sister and worried if I didn't continue being a positive force of encouragement and support, if she too, could've ended up in the same situations as these other girls.
Ella: What impact will this book have on the community?
I hope Damaged will shed light on two serious problems in our community: Sub par foster care systems that exist and the horrible effects of child abuse. Although there are thousands of loving foster parents, sometimes negligent and monstrous ones slip through the cracks and prey on children who in turn feel the repercussions over a lifetime.
Ella: What was your primary quest in publishing this book?
I've always loved to write and read, and I realized a common thread in the stories that drew me. Most of the stories centered around family, and the multiple disjointed parts of broken homes and hearts. When I began writing DAMAGED, although I'd never experienced such trauma as the protagonist Camille, I felt like she was a real person, someone who I cared about deeply and I wanted her to overcome the tragedies in her life. I believe people who come from adverse circumstances can overcome their obstacles, with adequate support, be it emotional, financial or physical. DAMAGED tells of a girl who never gave up.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
When I'm not writing I enjoy spending time with my family, just relaxing and living life. Although, I'll admit I'm a sucker for reality TV shows. There's something intriguing about the interactions of people forced to live with each other after being thrust into the homes of millions.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
The best piece of advice I have, is one that was given to me over and over from prolific authors I've met: read, read, read. And don't just read what you LIKE to read, open yourself up to new ideas and experiences from other genres.
Also, don't call yourself an "aspiring" author, once you put ink to paper, you are officially an author. :-)
Ella: Share with us your online contact information.
Please visit me at www.kiadupree.com
for more information. Readers can email me at info@kiadupree.com
Tiger's
Scarlett Letter: Live Beyond Public Humiliation
by Dr. Daryl D. Green
In the 1850 novel The Scarlet Letter, author Nathaniel Hawthorne takes the reader on an emotional roller coaster with a moral-laden saga. The setting takes place in the 17th-century Puritan settlement of Boston. Carrying her infant Pearl, Hester Prynne bears a scarlet letter "A" on her breast as a punishment for her apparent adultery. Despite the public humiliation, Hester never reveals her accomplice, Rev. Arthur Dimmesdale. Therefore, she receives the wrath of her community. Surprisingly, Rev. Dimmesdale sits quietly by as Hester bears all of the public shame.
Tiger Woods may feel like he's bearing his own scarlet letter. Yet, Elin Nordegren, Tiger's wife, endures an apparent burden; she carries the public humiliation of her husband's infidelity. Many people speculate that the beautiful supermodel will stand by her man due to the millions of dollars at stake. Others argue that Elin will leave Tiger. Unfortunately, this situation plays out like another celebrity circus. Witnessing a public humiliation isn't pleasant. It is easy to speculate as we watch the unraveling of one's life. Some people can remember, growing up, the cruelty of youthful jokes in public at someone else's expense. This article examines how to deal with public humiliation in order to move forward.
The Circumstance Life is more than a game. Tiger may be the greatest golfer is history. However, Tiger's own imperfection has damaged his public persona. On November 25th, the National Enquirer published a story alleging Tiger Wood's infidelity. On November 27th, Tiger crashed his Cadillac Escalade into a fire hydrant in his neighborhood without apparent explanation. He refused to talk with the policemen. Shortly afterward, several women claimed they had extramarital affairs with Tigers. Tiger has remained quiet except for his website posting: "This situation is my fault, and it's obviously embarrassing to my family and me." His delayed response to any wrongdoing (stopping Enid's public humiliation) came much too late. In fact, he may not be able to rapidly repair his tarnished image. According to a Gallup poll, his unfavorable rating surged up to 57%, compared to only 8% four years ago.
The Healing Strategy Public humiliation can heal over time. Public humiliation can be defined as "an action that allows an individual's personal embarrassment to become publicly known." Shame is defined as "a strong emotion caused by guilt or disgrace." Shame is not always bad. For example, children know not to misbehave in public due to the fact that they might embarrass their parents. However, there isn't much positive that one can say about public humiliation. It is an awful feeling. If the act is done by a loved one, it becomes a tormented burden. Why would anyone do such a thing? To take back one's integrity from public humiliation requires a great amount of courage. For many people, it takes personal healing that involves moving away from public scrutiny. In fact, a spiritual renewal can assist in the recovery process toward forgiveness. In many cases, celebrities are unwilling to give up the public limelight. Unfortunately, some people can allow this humiliation to chew up their self-worth, thereby becoming a prisoner of their imperfections.
Some folks possess the inner strength to press onward. However, it doesn't mean the individual forgets the humiliation. Lewis Smedes, author of Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve, spent a lifetime understanding how people can forgive others. Yet, he did not underestimate the damage caused to the victim: "You can forgive someone almost anything. But you cannot tolerate everything. . . . We don't have to tolerate what people do just because we forgive them for doing it. Forgiving heals us personally. To tolerate everything only hurts us all in the long run." For example, Jenny Sanford, wife of South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, filed for divorce after her husband's affair was revealed - showing that it is possible for a person involved in such a situation to take empowering action.
Conclusion Getting over public humiliation isn't an easy process. Today, public apologies are rather common. Many public figures have used the public relations playbook by announcing their transgression with a contrite spirit in hopes of getting the story behind them. Yet, they find it harder to remove the damage done to their victim. In fact, the person who caused the public humiliation does not get off free. In the Scarlett Letter, Dimmesdale's
secret sin haunts him in the form of deteriorating health and torment by Hester's husband. Likewise, Tiger is the center of tabloid news and late night
talk show banter. Many wonder if Enid can overcome her hurt and accept Tiger back, or whether she will choose to move on with her own life. For many individuals who are not in the limelight, they must gather the strength and fight for their integrity and self-worth. Time is still ticking.
Helping
others reach their fullest potential is what Daryl Green is all about. He is one
of the leading authorities for helping individuals get more control. Daryl, a
Generation Xer himself, applies a logical approach gained from his engineering
and management backgrounds to help individuals make good decisions (both
professionally and in the home environment). Before he was 30 years old, Daryl
had already managed over 300 projects estimated at $100 million dollars. He also
owns a consulting firm with his wife, Estraletta.
He
received a B.S. in engineering and a MA in Organizational Management. Currently,
Daryl is pursuing a doctoral degree in leadership from Regent University. He has
been a member of Who's Who Among International Professionals and Who’s Who
Among Top Executives and Successful Businesses. Unlike most experts, Daryl
understands the uniqueness of each family and the diversity of each culture. He
won’t give one solution to fit all problems. All these experiences have given
Daryl a unique perspective in understanding emerging trends. For
more information visit his site here. Note: article image
is from stock photo.
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DAMAGED by author Kia DuPree
The idea for DAMAGED popped in my head one night after watching a documentary about teen-aged prostitutes struggling to survive in New York. I was totally empathetic to their unbelievable and horrific journeys. I began to wonder what life must have been like for them from the start and then I immediately thought about my own teen-aged sister and how revolted I’d be if she ever thought prostitution was a means to an end. Although I know many young women fall victim to prostitution, I wanted to tell the story of one young girl who finds a way to rise above her circumstance.
As I began to write, DAMAGED began taking many twists and turns that centered on more than just sexual abuse and sex for profit. Another subject began to take shape: the notion that many women knowingly share the same mate because of a so-called drought as it relates to “good available men.” I continued to develop the idea of man-sharing, and unearthed the polygamous practice of many non-American cultures, and then I explored the benefits and the disadvantages of such relationships. Many women knowingly share the same man, as do most prostitutes who share a pimp. Wife-in-Law is the term that these prostitutes refer to each other as if they’re family, not by blood but by chance. This unusual support system intrigued me, because they tended to rely on each other to get through their unbelievable lot in life.
Developing DAMAGED became a culmination of these storylines thrust against the backdrop of a vicious city. Camille, the main-character, had a difficult upbringing, and though she was a product of the social service system, she made choices she felt was necessary for her own survival, as many women do who do not believe there are other options in life. I hope that DAMAGED inspires people who come from adverse circumstances to push harder in life.
About the Author
Kia DuPree, a former assistant editor at St. Martins Press, received the Fiction Honor Book Award from the Black Caucus of the American Library Association for her debut, self-published novel, Robbing Peter, in 2005.
Kia's short story, Lost One, was recently included in #1 Essence bestselling author Shannon Holmes' anthology HOOD 2 HOOD, which was released in March 2008.
Kia holds a B.A. in Mass Media Arts from Hampton University, as well as an M.A. in English from Old Dominion University. Kia currently resides in Washington, DC.
Motif
by Teisha Bourne is a story about two best friends that waltz into a deceptive, destructive triangle of lust, love, and betrayal, that tests the boundaries of their life-long friendship, and demolishes the precepts of right and wrong. Summer break is almost over for nineteen-year-old Tiffany Randal and Camisha Simmons who are back home in Memphis from Fisk. Summer break has been a bummer because Camisha has been constantly pining over her recently lost boyfriend. Tiffany has gotten fed up with Camisha's whining and crying.
Tiffany's motto is lose one man, then get another. When she and Camisha meet Rayford Hunchings at a local mall, he seems like a frill free, no commitment, diversion. But what Camisha and Tiffany don't know is Rayford has a game plan of his own, and he has secrets even more bizarre than the pink women's dress hidden in his closet, or the Zorro costumed, whip toting mannequin, standing in his sex boudoir
themed bedroom. The girls also meet Terrell Phillip, a pre-law student who is Rayford's ex-friend. He's a suave, good looking player, who sweeps Tiffany up in a whirlwind romance and offers her a future she can't resist. But is he really the man of Tiffany's dreams or is he just a smoke screen? Then there's Rayford's grandfather, the rich, elderly, Senator Eugene Hunchings. The senator has welded great power in life, but when a lingering illness brings him to a sudden end, the contents of his shocking will proves he rules supreme in death. Tiffany and Camisha's lives will be changed forever as they become unknowing, yet willing pawns in a scheme that will lead them down a twisted road to murder.
Ella: Do you write full time?
Describe your writing schedule for our readers.
I have no particular writing schedule except when I am required to finish something before a deadline. I am a registered nurse by profession so I do have a day job. I also have a husband and it is a blessing that we both work as a team to promote "Motif," because promotion takes a huge chunk of our time. But even though it doesn't seem like there are enough hours in the day I still manage to write. One advantage I have is I don't need quiet to gather my thoughts. I can listen to music, watch TV, cook, whatever. My only distraction is direct conversation. I can't talk and write. There have been times where I'm lying in bed trying to sleep and instead jump up to write down a quick chapter or idea that comes to me. There have been other times when I don't write a thing for days. The longest time I had a "block" was about two or three months.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
When I am not writing, I am usually on my laptop web surfing. My husband and I are really into computers. We also record music. I write and sing the lyrics. My husband writes the music and does the recording. We're shopaholics. We visit the park, the zoo--simple things in life give us pleasure. Our son often visits and he's quite a jokester. Oh--I have a dog too.
Ella: Teisha,
tell us a little about your main characters in Motif.
"Motif's" tag line is "What would you do for money?" And boy will readers be surprised to find out the answer. My main characters are Tiffany Randal and Camisha Simmons who have been BFF's since junior high. They are both statuesque beauties, with a huge "I know myself and that's who I'm going to be", personalities. Tiffany is cautious and practical. Camisha is wild and outrageous. Their opposite characterizations cause them to be dysfunctional co-dependants.
"Motif" is told through Tiffany's eyes and it is her story of change and self awareness. When two men come into Tiffany and Camisha's lives the girl's tight friendship suddenly has to stand up against an unbelievable threat. And through a series of mind-boggling events, Tiffany discovers how different she and Camisha really are. Readers will be amazed, and will wonder how these seemingly normal college girls could become so misguided. Tiffany and Camisha abandon their intended paths to strong careers and a promising future. They even abandon just plain common sense and land right in the middle of a twisted road to murder.
"Motif's" characters come together to create a multi-faceted tale that peeks into the lives of people with well kept emotional and sexual secrets. These secrets are cemented together by unbreakable, yet destructive loyalties that border on obsession and eventually threaten to destroy them all.
Ella: Are your characters from the portrayal of real people?
I've been asked this question many times about the characters in "Motif." My characters are fictional, but in the course of making them realistic I am sure I have probably pulled from my life's experiences with others. People are really fascinating to watch and decipher. I strove to make my characters in "Motif" just as intriguing.
Ella: What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
"Motif," explores the thin boundaries of love, hate, friendship, and obsession. It also explores what lengths people will go to preserve relationships that are really totally destructive. Sexuality issues are also a hot topic in today's society. The characters in "Motif" dive head on into coping with difficult and sometimes unpleasant sexual issues that face many couples of today, from bisexuality, homosexuality, to men "living on the down low." The readers are not spared from the consequences of what happens when these complex relationships collide.
Ella: What inspired you to write Motif?
Being an avid reader inspired me to write "Motif." When I was about twelve or thirteen I discovered that on Thursdays during the summer months, the library had a book mobile that came to my neighborhood. I would trek out in the Memphis hot sun and make my way to the book mobile as if going on a most anticipated trip or riding a thrilling amusement park ride. The thought of getting a book to read was that exciting to me. Writing gives me that same excitement, except now I am reading a story I created. Writing is very therapeutic and I love to see the light in someone's eyes when they exclaim how much they've enjoyed my book. It's definitely a boost for the soul.
Ella: What was your primary quest in publishing this book?
When I first started writing I had no clear goal in mind, except finishing. I simply wrote because I liked writing. But after I reread the story I wrote I thought maybe someone else might like my story too. It was then that I began to seek publication. I also have been diagnosed with spasmodic dysponia. This is a vocal condition that sometimes causes me speaking difficulty. I often shy away from speaking because of this condition. Now that "Motif" is published, I am forced to talk and promote my book. "Motif" is actually helping me overcome my self-imposed fear of talking. I am finding myself speaking more fluently. Also because I love books and reading, I have great pride in acquiring the title of published author.
Ella: What is the best advice you would give to an aspiring author?
My best piece of advice is to know your craft. It's not just about telling a slick story. If you can't afford to enroll in a writing class, or don't have the time to take a writing class then do what I did, check out library books on writing and do what the books say do. Readers are smart and they gauge if you have taken what you are doing seriously by how well your story reads, is it punctuated well, is your grammar correct, did you check your spelling. Another good piece of advice is to read a few best sellers in your genre and obtain a good understanding of what those authors imparted to you as the reader. Pick the books apart. Meditate on them and then ask yourself, what made you enjoy that book. Then immolate that answer in your own writing.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, upcoming book releases.
Everyone is invited to visit my website www.teishabourne.com
to check for my latest news and events or to contact me. You can also reach me through Belletristic Press or my publisher Sherita Nunn of S Redic Publicity.
Belletristic Press is now considering my next installment tentatively titled "Motif Complete."
I can be found on Face Book, Twitter, MySpace, Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble.com and others.
Goggle Teisha Bourne to see other links and sites where you can find info about me and "Motif."
"Motif" can be purchased at local book stores and is downloadable to digital media.
African American Literary Award nominated author, Hazel Mills, knew that she wanted to be a writer from the moment she penned the first words of a poem titled “A Tree” when she was in the third grade. Even though she majored in business at the University of Alabama, writing continued to be her first love.
Hazel’s short erotic fiction has been published in Playgirl Magazine’s Erotic Encounters (January 2007 issue) and in Best Lesbian Love Stories: New York City, edited by Simone Thorne (November 2006, Alyson Books). She is also one of the contributing authors to the award-winning anthology, Mocha Chocolate: Taste A Piece of Ecstasy, edited by Shani Greene-Dowdell.
Hazel’s debut collection of critically acclaimed erotic short stories, Bare Necessities: Sensuous Tales of Passion (April 2008, Xpress Yourself Publishing) was awarded the honor of “Best Erotica” given by African Americans On The Move Bookclub at their 2009 national conference.
Lady Leo Publishing has also published some of her short stories in ebook format. She is a contributing author to the highly anticipated upcoming release, The Triumph of My Soul: The Breakthrough, edited by Elissa Gabrielle (2010) Hazel’s new book, Journey To Surrender, was released in September 2009 by Xpress Yourself Publishing.
Hazel is a wife and mother living in the historic Birmingham, Alabama area.
Ella: Introduce us to your new book, Journey To Surrender. Journey To Surrender is a story about the struggle of three people, Nikki Evans, Ahmad Jacobs and Shannon Evans, to find love and acceptance after a lifetime of hurt and deception. For two of them, the emotional journey leads them into the unconditional loving arms of each other while one is left to navigate a more twisted and tragic road.
Ella: Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
There are three main characters in my latest novel, Journey To Surrender. Nikki is the quintessential girl next door with brains, beauty and a big heart. She leaves Mobile, Alabama for college life far away from home on the campus of Georgetown University. But no matter how hard she tries, she can't get away from her painful past. Nikki wants to love and be loved but is afraid that if she lets anyone in, she'll be hurt again.
Ahmad has it going on at every level and has his pick of women. He is one of the rising basketball stars for the Georgetown Hoyas but his time on the court is cut short by an awful tragedy. Ahmad is a good guy who constantly makes irresponsible choices that at one point, almost cost him everything.
Shannon, Nikki's emotionally damaged younger sister, also moves to the nation's capital to further her education at nearby Howard University. Both sisters share the same twisted family secret but deal with it differently. Shannon is on a mission to get as much as she can, by any means necessary. Her destructive behavior leaves everyone in her path shell-shocked.
Of these three characters, I would have to say that Nikki is my favorite because her personality is a lot like mine. Nikki is a sweet southern girl who, when backed into a corner, fights like a wildcat to protect her own but still comes out with the true grace of a lady.
Ella:
What issue or person inspired you to write this story?
I was inspired to write this book after learning about the sexual abuse of several people who are close to me. Even though, by the grace of God, I was spared from this horrible tragedy, it happens more than I realized. In recent months, a few high profile celebrities, like Tyler Perry, Queen Latifah and Mo'Nique, have come out and talked openly about a childhood filled with molestation and their road to finding healing and peace.
Ella: What issues in today's society have you addressed?
There are a few issues addressed in Journey To Surrender. Ahmad struggles with balancing his life as a teenage father and a student. Shannon deals with the consequences of drug abuse and promiscuity. However, the most obvious issue in the book is how very differently the sisters cope with being sexually abused as children by their father.
Ella: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?
I really hope that this book becomes a conversation starter for an enormous social issue that has been swept under a proverbial rug in our community for much too long.
Ella: What was the most powerful chapter or scene in the book for you?
I think the most powerful chapter in the book is chapter twenty-nine because the message in this chapter is that no matter how hard we try to hide or deny that an issue exists in our lives, if we don't deal with it in a healthy manner, the effects can be devastating.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
Write about the things that you are passionate about instead of what may be a "trendy" subject matter. When you are passionate about a subject, it will shine through in every aspect of your writing and storytelling.
Readers really appreciate that and will look for your titles again and again.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
I was recently honored with inclusion in the third edition of Who's Who in Black Birmingham. Also this year, African Americans on the Move Book Club awarded my first book, Bare Necessities: Sensuous Tales of Passion, with the award for Best Erotica. I am a contributing author to an erotic anthology due out soon called, Sugar and Spice.
I also have an e-book titled, The Ride, that will be released this month from Lady Leo Publishing.
Joan Early became an avid reader at an early age and began her writing career with a first place win in Ebony Magazine's literary contest. She became a member of the Genesis Press family with a January 2009 release,
Look Both Ways, followed by her latest book, Fireflies.
Fireflies is the story of lasting friendships, strong family connections, and finding love in the most unexpected places. The story is set in post-Katrina New Orleans and contains factual accounts of life in this intriguing city, both before and after the destruction. Fireflies illustrates the many paths our hearts can take in finding that perfect match. It mixes deep passion with mystery, danger, the music and magic, as well as the shady side of one of the greatest cities in the world.
Ella: Tell us about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
The main characters in Fireflies are Whitney Underwood, a prosecutor with the New Orleans DA's office, her childhood friend, Kyle, and Leander Perry, a musician who steals her heart. Whitney is my favorite because she a strong, confident career woman with a deep love for family.
Ella: Are your characters from a portrayal of real people?
The characters are purely fictional, but Whitney is a composite of the things I most admire and hope to achieve.
Ella: What issue, person or thing inspired you to write this story?
First was my love for a city that created many happy memories in my life. New Orleans has a rich cultural history that offers tremendous excitement and inspires romance. The character of Whitney Underwood was inspired by my unrealized dream of working with the district attorney's office.
Ella:
Do you write full time? Describe your writing schedule for our readers.
I wrote full time for the last seven years, but recently became active in real estate in my north Houston community of Kingwood. I write whenever I get a strong idea. I've never had an exact schedule.
Thoughts and ideas sometimes pop into my head in the middle of the night. When this happens, I often spend the entire morning at the keyboard, still in my pajamas.
Ella: What do you do when you're not writing?
I like preparing meals for my family and spending quiet time with my husband.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
Believe in your work, even when you have enough rejects to cover your bedroom walls.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
I am very excited about each of my books and really looking forward to the release of my next book, Oak Bluffs, which is set in historic Martha's Vineyard where African Americans and Native Americans have always had a strong presence. In addition to book stores, my books can be found at Amazon.com and Genesis Press.com. My website,
www.joanearly.com , contains a list of my books and upcoming appearances, as well as my email address. I welcome and appreciate comments and suggestions from our readers, and thank them for their continued support.
Intimate
Conversation with Cassandra Washington
Cassandra Washington is an author and screenwriter. She is a graduate of the University of Central Florida. Her books include “Brown Paper Bag Brothers”, “Love Doesn’t Live Here”, “From A to Z: A Guide to Give to Men Who Honestly Don’t Know or Who Insist on Playing Dumb”, and “Jeremiah Sings the Blues”.
For more information, visit www.cassandrawashington.net
Ella: I would like to introduce you to Jeremiah Sings the Blues by Cassandra Washington, a story centered around forgiveness, money, sex and lies.
This book details a father's journey to destruction, and his full attempt to try to pick up the pieces and seek forgiveness of those he hurt along the way.
Will the most important person of all forgive him in the final hour? It's a great read, so check it out and let me know your thoughts!
Jeremiah Sings the Blues is filled with money, sex and lies. This isn’t what NFL rookie Jeremiah Williams bargained for when he entered the league, but it’s most definitely what he got. Raised in the subtle suburbs of Florida, the only contact he had with the brutal realities of the streets was with his less than noble cousin Los. That soon changed once he met a mysterious woman who would eventually turn his world upside down. Now with a son whose future is at stake and a faltering career, Jeremiah quickly realizes that nothing in this world is free…not even his life.
Ella: What inspired you to write this story?
My nephew actually. He is a kid who was in and out of the foster care system most of his life, and then my mother tried to keep him until things worked themselves out. His parents, while good people individually, just got married too quickly, just like the characters in the book, and the mistakes made not only affected them, but also the kids. The entire situation was sad, but there’s glory in knowing that God made a way. And when I see my nephew now playing football, happy, going to school, reading at an advanced level, it touches my heart, and that’s a story I had to tell.
Ella: Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
Let’s see. We have Jeremiah Sr., and NFL player who fell to temptation and witnessed his life going downhill ever since. There is Junior, a top R& B singer and son of Jeremiah, who houses this anger for his father, and hurt from his childhood because there’s this big question mark on his life. There’s Grandma, who has all the wisdom. Lauren, Junior’s fiancé, is my favorite because she’s the epitome of a strong black woman, just like his Grandmother is. She doesn’t speak much, but when she does, it means something, you know? I love that! For that statement that goes: “Behind every strong Black man, there’s a strong Black woman”, well that’s her. Next up we have Angel, the ex girlfriend, and Sue Ellen Green, the sexy temptress who turns Jeremiah’s world upside down. She’s sexy, she’s crafty, she’s dishonest, and most of all, lost.
Ella: Are your characters from Jeremiah Sings the Blues
a portrayal of real people?
Yes and no. The characters in this story are fiction as well as the locations and the professions. The core situations though are very real, minus the ending which I won’t spoil for you. I’ve seen women turn to drugs and prostitution to support their habits, even though they had a good thing going on at home. I’ve seen kids in and out of foster homes because their parents would make one mistake after the other, whether intentional or not. I’ve seen some of those same kids make something of their lives despite their upbringing, and that’s beautiful! Groupie action, infidelity, gut-wrenching decisions, all of those things presented in the book are very real. I’m sure there is someone going through something that happens in the book in real time, and it’s very unfortunate.
Ella:
What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
In the book I touched on how the law is not always just. I touched on the problem society has with drugs, violence and promiscuity. You know it’s so weird, but I remember growing up fearless. If somebody started shooting bullets into the crowd at a dance, whatever, just hide under the car, no big deal. A street fight pops off, cool, let’s get close so we can see what’s going on. But now? Kid from Chicago, and little girl from Atlanta among others, God rest their souls! It’s crazy. As an adult, I’m seeing things in a different light, the way my mother saw them when she was warning me about everything. I see what she is talking about now that I’m older. The world is something else. So yeah, I touched on some issues, but the world has so many, baby, I couldn’t hit them all.
Ella: Who did you write Jeremiah Sings the Blues
for? Why?
To anyone who is, or has been, lost, or has gone through trials or anything, this is for you. It’s so easy for something terrible to happen and we only see it from our viewpoint, but sometimes, while it doesn’t change what happened or how you feel, it’s beneficial to realize that there’s two sides to a situation, and different motivations for certain actions. And sometimes seeing the whole picture, as opposed to just bits and pieces of the puzzle, can make a huge difference. The worst thing in any tragedy or problem is not knowing “why”. Sometimes answering that “why” can bring closure to a once-opened wound.
Ella: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?
Yes, to everyone who has gone through trials, know that your past does not predict your future. If someone hurt you, or whatever the case may be, it’s time to forgive and move on. Don’t allow hatred and contempt to keep you burdened. It’s not worth it.
Ella: What was the most powerful chapter or scene in the book for you?
Wow, the most powerful? For me, I’d say the execution. I get a little misty-eyed when I take my time reading it and visualizing step by step from the sound of the preacher’s voice in the pulpit, to the choir selection, to the song, the panic all the way to the tears. It’s a big moment not only for Junior, but also for his father and his grandmother. It’s that closure that we all strive to attain after something so tragic and unsettling.
Ella: What sets your book apart from other books in your genre?
Great question. I would say that “Jeremiah Sings the Blues” is not the average story. There is no happy ending to the father’s situation in the traditional sense of “happy”. The book is a rollercoaster where the main character wants to be happy, but he also wants to save someone close to him, and because he can’t, it’s causing turmoil. It feels almost like The Pursuit of Happiness meets Seven Pounds. It’s intense at times.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
Lord, everything! I’m a big kid at heart so you’ll catch me on any given day at an arcade, bowling, etc.
I love movie nights, museums, listening to music, game nights with my friends. I’m always trying new restaurants (love food!) and festivals. I’m just now getting into the whole traveling thing, flying on planes etc, because previously I was terrified! I’m really laid back, sweet, down to earth and open-minded so I’m always into something different.
Ella: What does your family think of your writing?
Oh they love it! They are very supportive. My sister is awesome at keeping my covers and website on point.
Shout out to Creative Kairu Designs. I love them and I’m happy for them and they are happy for me, so it’s good.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
Never give up or doubt yourself. That’s the first piece, hands down. There are going to be so many people, agents, whatever, telling you “no” or that they don’t think your work will sell, but let me tell you, you will be surprised how many people can relate to your words and your art and your dreams. Stay focused on what’s important to you.
Also, Gary Hardwick, the director of the hit movie
“The Brothers” told me, and I’ll never forget, that “one doesn’t aspire to his or her own talent. If you do, then you are.”
And to me that means stop saying you are aspiring to do something because if you have a short story in your notebook that you’ve written, or a few spec scripts in your file, then guess what, you are a writer. You may not be doing it on a big scale like you desire, but you have to start somewhere. So believe in yourself and your ability, pick up the pen or the laptop, and get to writing. You will be glad you did. And if you need any other advice regarding writing, hit me up at
Cassandra.washington@gmail.com
and if I know the answer I will surely let you know. If I don’t, then I just don’t, and don’t be mad (smile).
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
Well at the moment I’m coming out of my “hibernation”, but I want to thank Fox Network’s live morning show in South Florida, “The Morning Blend” for having me on for my previous book (“From A to Z: A Guide to Give to Men Who Honestly Don’t Know or Who Insist On Playing Dumb”), and I want to thank the ladies of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Incorporated Clearwater chapter for inviting me out to their scholarship fundraiser to showcase some of my work.
“Jeremiah Sings the Blues”
was released in November 2009, so be sure to grab yourself a copy, you won’t regret it! Be prepared to laugh, suck those teeth and roll those eyes, cry, the whole bit. It’s an awesome book! Thanks to Black Pearls Magazine, one of the hottest online literary magazines I know! And last but not least, show love to my website at
www.cassandrawashington.net
, give me your personal thoughts and reviews on any of my books and join the email list at
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Peace and blessings! – Cassi
Intimate
Conversation with Jordan Belcher
Jordan
Belcher grew up in an inner city neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri, with his
mother and father, and two older brothers. Living below the poverty level,
he was forced to be creative to entertain himself. But as a teen he let go
of his artistry, dropped out of high school and grabbed on to crime. He
went from petty thievery to armed robbery, and a month after he turned 19 he was
arrested and sentenced to 10 years in prison. Behind bars, he started
reading Urban Literature and immediately rediscovered his passion for writing.
He earned his GED and penned his first novel by the age 22, wrote his second by
the age 24, and now at 26, Jordan Belcher has his debut novel, Tre Pound,
scheduled for release April 2010.
Ella: Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your
favorite? Why?
My novel, Tre Pound, takes you through the day-to-day life of a gangster named
Levour “Tre Pound” King who craves street fame over money. He
has an intelligent 15-year-old cousin named Camille King who doesn’t always
feel loved, and it causes her to rush into relationships with no regard for her
own safety. She has a friend who’s a year older than her, Dominique
Hayes, who has an unhealthy crush on Tre Pound, and Dominique has an older
brother named Marlon Hayes who is a close friend of Tre Pound’s. Marlon
is my favorite character because he represents a lot of people who’ve had and
still have poisonous friends in their lives.
Ella:
Urban literature should present a "cautionary tale."
What issues do you bring to the reader's attention?
One issue I allude to in the book is how a lot of the youth living in the street
mistake warning signs of their well-being (e.g. surviving multiple gun shots,
winning a criminal case) as testaments to their toughness. I also bring up
in dialogue between two characters and throughout the book why some people
choose the criminal life style over the straight and narrow.
Ella: Who did you write this book for? Why?
I started writing Tre Pound with my fellow inmates in mind, wanting to shock and
awe a few of my friends who’ve lived some of the most abhorrent lives
imaginable. It worked, and now I am anxious to see how readers from all
walks of life will take to the brutal reality in my novel.
Ella: Do you write full time? Describe your writing
schedule for our readers.
It takes me an hour to push out on page. And I write two pages a day,
which comes to two hours total, but I always spend more time writing if I
haven’t met my two-page-a-day quota.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
When I am not working on a manuscript, I’m playing with the weights in the gym
or reading. I read everything from urban books and horrors to philosophy
and history. I love reading just as much as I love writing.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to
an aspiring author?
I would tell an aspiring author to write without fear of being judged. If you
write with inhibitions, you’ll turn out with an ordinary story that’s
deprived of emotion.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book
releases.
I’m currently working on a sequel and revising an earlier work, but more than
anything I am preparing for my release from prison in early 2011.
Join me in welcoming Anna Black,
author of Now You Wanna Come Back, Luck of the Draw and Split Image. Talented and inspiring is the best way to describe this Chicago Native. Now You Wanna Come Back is her debut novel and it has done its duty to deliver a page turning introduction for Anna. She has showed herself to be ready for the literary world with her first release and is anxious to release her second novel Luck of the Draw in April 23, 2010.
Her love for writing began about ten years ago with poems and short stories and now she is ready to wow readers with her page turning plots, while she gives readers stories that will make them laugh, maybe cry, but definitely reflect. This new authoress is here to make a mark in the literary world, so readers get ready. She currently lives in Texas with her husband Chris and her daughter Tyra and it is her pleasure to share her written words with you.
Ella: Introduce us to your new book, Luck of the Draw.
Friends come and go, but the good ones are hard to let go. Kennedy and her best friend Cherae were like "two peas in a pod," Kennedy's daddy would say because they were tighter than a large man in a medium suit jacket. Although they were totally different in size, personality and back ground, they had been friends and loved each other since the second grade. Tables turned for their friendship when that evil word 'jealously' came between them over a sexy club owner named Julian Roberson. One night led this duo down an ugly road that Kennedy never wanted to travel on and a road Cherae never imagined she'd lose on. Cherae opened up a can of pain on Kennedy and after over twenty-five years of friendship, one man caused it to fall apart. Not knowing what to do or who to trust, Kennedy sought support from her true friend Teresa, who had tried to warn her about her life long pal Cherae many times before. When the smoke clears and the truth finally comes to light, they learn a lesson in friendship, love and loyalty.
Luck of the Draw is a Romance/Drama/Suspense; ISBN- 978-0982145579
Ella: Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
My main characters are Kennedy, Cherae and Julian. Kennedy is a young, wealthy, single, plus sized woman who has shied away from love because her dad warned her, how heartless men could be, but she wished he had also warned her about friends. Her best friend Cherae was like a sister to her and Kennedy was a little naive when it came to Cherae and didn't realize that she secretly envied her life although she was the one blessed with the beautiful face and body.
Julian is my favorite character because he is the man that all women dream of having. He is loyal and is the total opposite of what Kennedy's dad raised her to believe. Although most men would break, he stays true to the women he loves and as tempting as Kennedy's best friends offer was, he stood his ground and didn't let her succeed in her mission to seduce him behind Kennedy's back. He shows readers that all men are not the same and sometimes who you trust maybe the one to hurt you the most.
Ella: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?
Yes, my main message is self esteem. My books caters to every day women, like myself that are not picture perfect. My leading lady and majority of my stories are plus sized, curvy, or voluptuous women. I try to portray stories with realistic characters that today's readers can say, "hey that could be me," verses the perfect size five always having the happy ending.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
My tip for new authors is to definitely invest in editing. A good story can be ruined if there is no professional editing.
Ella: Share with us your latest news or upcoming book releases.
Right now I am with Delphine Publications and Now You Wanna Come Back released under Delphine November 20, 2009. My next book Luck of the Draw will release April 23, 2010.
Pamela Ridley’s first published piece was a play about the Dred Scott Decision that she wrote in fourth grade. The play was well received by the PTA of Riddick Branch Elementary School.Since purchasing her first computer in 1995, she has written five novels (three of which are published) and several short
stories. Ms. Ridley currently resides in Maryland. www.pamelaridley.com
Ella: Pamela, introduce us to Another Memory, your latest
book.
Forty-two year old Chelly Whitaker has shut down her emotions to protect herself from pain, which means she’s shut herself off from feeling anything, including love. Then Sean Price enters her life. He’s ten years younger, but despite the age difference and the stress surrounding their relationship which includes a murder, Chelly makes strides toward losing her sorrow, learning to feel again, and in doing so, creates another memory.
Ella: What issue, person or thing inspired you to write this story?
It’s been established that horrific things happen; that at any given moment, life can turn tragic, but then what? How can we go on and what happens next? That’s what I wanted to address through the life of the main character in this book. If you stop living as a result of a tragedy, if all you do is go through the motions, then, in essence, all you are doing is waiting to die. Another Memory is about how Chelly struggles to reclaim a life where she is able to feel again.
Ella: Who should read Another Memory and why?
•
Read this book if you believe in the power of love to transform.
•
Read this book if you believe the lines between this world and the next can blur.
•
Read this book if you believe our elders teach us to celebrate life--every bit of it; the good and the bad.
•
Read this book if you believe life can steal every wisp of joy and still the human spirit will not relinquish hope.
Ella:
What was the most powerful chapter or scene in the book for you?
One scene was when Chelly had to tell Sean, her potential love interest, that she saw and spoke to her deceased daughter. You can imagine that’s a tough conversation to have. As a writer, it was fun to see how Sean would handle it.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
When I’m not writing, I’m wishing I was. I’m afraid the muse will take a permanent hiatus and if it does, then what form of creative endeavor will I undertake because I believe an expression of creativity is essential for living a balanced, sane life.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
When you find yourself writing for hours at a time, and it feels like only five minutes have passed, then you’ll know writing is a passion, and that’s a good thing! With passion comes drive and persistence. Those are the things needed to stay the course.
Ella: How may we find you online and purchase Another Memory?
Book seller info and my website address is
www.pamelaridley.com
Keith Walker is a graduate of Texas Wesleyan University where he earned a bachelor’s degree in English. He enjoys reading, poetry, and music of all genres. Keith currently works in administration at one of the city’s largest hospitals. He lives in Fort Worth , Texas with his wife and two children.
Fixin’ Tyrone is Keith’s first book.
Ella: Introduce us to your new book, Fixin’ Tyrone. Fixin’ Tyrone is one woman’s struggle to find peace and fulfillment in a life that seemed to be flowing perfectly until her son’s thuggish father is released from prison. Mia thought she had it all; two smart and beautiful children, a well-paying career and classy suitors, some with million dollar portfolios. Her wild days of college are far behind her, and Mia’s only regret in life is the thugs and hoodlums she once loved. All she got from her old lifestyle was two fatherless children and a lifetime worth of heartache.
It took six long years to rebound from the mistakes of her past. The new Mia is strong and confident and thoroughly uninterested in anything a thug has to offer her, but that all changes when she gets a letter from prison. Tyrone, the father of her oldest child, is getting out, and he wants to get back in his son’s life. Tyrone wants to get back in Mia’s life as well. Mia would have to be crazy to take him back… but this time, it seems the tiger really has changed his stripes. Or at least he’d like her to think he has.
Ella:
Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
My main character is Mia. Mia is a successful executive at an investment firm. Mia is smart and witty. She’s assertive and firm and fair. She is a good mother and a good friend. Mia is also vulnerable and passionate. She is definitely my favorite character.
Another main character is, of course, Tyrone. Tyrone went to prison for six years, during which time he claims to have changed his life. Tyrone is freed from prison at the start of my book, and he immediately tries to make things right with his child’s mother, Mia. Tyrone is handsome and sexy, and he’s also honest and determined. Tyrone is strong, yet vulnerable. He’s a hard-worker, but he’s also disadvantaged because of his environment and the felonies on his police record. His dilemma is very familiar to me, and he is my second favorite character.
Ella: Are your characters from Fixin’ Tyrone a portrayal of real people?
Tyrone is a portrayal of countless black men I’ve met throughout my life. I have many friends and relatives who went to prison for drug dealing, so this aspect of black culture hits very close to home. And like most incarcerated black men, Tyrone has dreams and aspirations that go well beyond his reach. Like Tyrone, all of my incarcerated brothers have told me they want to do positive things once released from prison. The prisons are full of good intentions, but these dreams often fade once the convict is released. Tyrone experiences his share of turmoil when he returns to the “free world,” and it’s interested to see whether he’ll fall back into his old lifestyle or if he will make the changes necessary to stay out of jail and revitalize a relationship with Mia.
Ella: Who did you write Fixin’ Tyrone for? Why?
I wrote this book for women, mainly. Growing up, most of what I wrote was about manly topics and from a man’s point of view. One day a friend challenged me to write a book for women. I thought it would be difficult because I never got into the head of a woman for any of my stories, so I brainstormed a few ideas that would not only interest women, but topics that were common to them, yet still intriguing. I think it helped that I have always been somewhat of a sensitive brother, and I have a lot of empathy for nearly every situation. When I got started, I enjoyed looking at different scenarios from a woman’s point of view, and this new insight has also been beneficial in my everyday life.
Ella: What impact will this book,
Fixin’ Tyrone, have on the community?
I hope my book will cause the community to be introspective about drugs, thugs, prison, family and second chances. I would like the community to be aware of the thin line between recreational and hard drug use, and I would also like my readers to be more open-minded and less critical of black men going to or leaving the penitentiary. I would like my readers to believe in true love again and be willing to make sacrifices for the love of their life.
Ella: Is there a message in your book that you want readers to grasp and share?
I’m not an activist, per se, but there are many messages in my book I would like the readers to grasp. The first would be to be wary of the individuals in your life and always remember that your personal safety is much more important than any relationship. Readers should also learn that not all people can be judged by their circumstances, and it’s not right to give up on anyone who truly wants to change. I also stress the evils of drug use and the troubles crack cocaine in particular has caused our communities. Lastly, I hope my readers learn that true love is important. It may not conquer all, but sometimes it is worth fighting for.
Ella: What sets your book apart from other books in your genre?
The first thing that sets my book apart from others in my genre is the fact that I am a man, and most romance novels are written by women. I won’t say I’m better than all of those women, but I do believe my maleness adds a certain perspective they cannot fully provide. Also (and I don’t mean to insult anyone in particular) I’ve found that a lot of writers, especially in the urban fiction genre, really don’t know what they’re doing. It’s one thing to have an interesting story to tell. It’s another thing to have the education and creative writing training to tell this story beautifully. According to my website, Keith Walker is THE MASTER OF ROMANTIC SUSPENSE AND URBAN FICTION, and I believe this title sets me apart from all others.
Ella: Do you write full time? Describe your writing schedule for our
readers.
It is my dream to write fulltime, but, alas, I’ve only published one book so far. I work fulltime at one of the largest hospitals in Fort Worth . I work the graveyard shift from ten p.m. to six a.m. I work in an office, and I have a computer, and... Well, let’s just say it’s not always terribly busy here. Don’t tell my boss, but if I were to seriously calculate it, I’m pretty sure I do 60% of my writing at work.
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing?
I like to read and go to the movies. I like to play video games, either alone or with my kids. I love music of all genres. I like to take the kids to the park to fly kites or toss the football around. I love to eat! I like restaurants – either fancy or fast food, it doesn’t matter. I like to perform at open mic or poetry slam venues, and I like to watch others perform as well. I went on my first cruise last summer. That was wonderful. I would like to do that again one day. If I had enough money, traveling would probably be my favorite pastime.
Ella: What is the best piece of advice you would give to an aspiring author?
The best advice for any aspiring author is to never give up. I’ve signed three contracts so far, and for each of those books, I have a dozen rejection letters. When you put your dreams in an envelope and send them across the country, you’re left in a rather vulnerable position. When a rejection letter comes back, you can either let it break your spirits, or you can try harder. The problem is you never know who’s going to open your package at those publishing companies, and you may not know what they’re looking for. You might get a rejection letter because they didn’t like your query letter, or you might get one because the editor was sleepy the day she/he opened your package. There are thousands of publishing companies out there, so unless you have thousands of rejection letters, it’s not time to give up.
Ella: Share with us your latest news, awards or upcoming book releases.
My second novel is How to Kill Your Husband. It will be published by Genesis Press in June 2010.
Here is a back cover blurb for How to Kill Your Husband:
Claire is a happily married mother of three. Her life seems picture perfect until she suspects her husband of sixteen years is having an affair. With the help of her quirky friends Becky and Melanie, Claire gets to the bottom of it, but they uncover much more than she bargained for. When she believes she has sufficient proof, Claire decides on the most obvious course of action: She must kill her husband.
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About the Author
When Simone’s conniving husband Stefan is caught dealing with the Mafia, the world she knows is changed. She is left facing an investigation, murder, and revenge while striving to save a company she loved––a company she inherited from her late Aunt Marge. With the help of her sister Sabrina, they devise a plan to survive the turmoil, but not without recruiting Rodney, Simone's old flame, who was bouncing back from heartache. Rodney devises a dynamic plan to assist Simone and Sabrina while marketing a production campaign. 
Secrets
of a Kept Woman is a urban lit story that deals with women's relationships
in friendship and in love. Shayla, Rhonda and Gladys have been best
friends since high school and have always been the strength each other needs,
but when one woman decides that a man is more important than friendship,
everything goes to pieces. Is this friendship one dark secret away from
shattering it into a thousand pieces? They say the truth shall set you free --
but will it? 
About the Author
PYNK
is the best-selling author of three erotica titles and winner of the 2008
YOUnity award for both the Fastest Rising Literary Star and Author of the Year.
Hachette Books released the first title, Erotic City, in November 2008.
Erotic City was a finalist for a 2009 African-American Literary Award in the
category of erotica and voted one of the Best Reads for 2008 by Black
Expressions. 
BPM:
Introduce us to your book, SIXTY-NINE and the characters. On Kindle or
Nook? 
Twenty-eight
year old Kennedy Logan is gorgeous, educated, talented, and in love.
Unfortunately, Drake Collins has other ideas about the true state of their
relationship. Kennedy hopes to turn him around; Drake just wants to turn her out
sexually. Kennedy is also searching for her biological mother, who gave her up
at birth. She wants answers and she has tons of questions. The enormous weight
of these predicaments leads to a failed suicide attempt.
About
the Author
About
the Author
Nikkea Smithers is a dynamic award winning and Essence Magazine bestselling writer and spoken word artist, originally from Connecticut , currently residing in Richmond , VA. She has released several novels, poetry compilations and has contributed to several anthologies. Her writing style is unique as she uses her ability to play on words throughout each project. Her novels flair with the explicit details of life told through her characters’ eyes. Visit the author's website at: www.nikkeasmithers.com for more book excerpts and event details.
Ebonee Monique graduated from Florida A&M University with a Bachelor of Science degree in Public Relations. She was nominated as Breakout Author of the Year for African American Literary Award Show in 2009. Prior to becoming a published author, Ebonee Monique served as Morning Show Host and Operations Manager for WANM 90.5FM in Tallahassee, Florida and produced an on-air weekly entertainment segment on TOUCH 106.1FM in Boston, MA. She currently lives in the state of Florida. 
BPM: Take us inside
Blitz. What are two major events taking place? 
Sleepless
Nights, the first released of the four volume Drew Smith Series, is loosely
based on DC’s infamous 2003 Colonel Brooks Tavern murders. The protagonist in
Norwood Holland’s new novel is like no other before.
Ella:
Welcome Lesley Hal author Pleasure Principles.
Tell us a little about your main characters in Pleasure Principles. Who was your favorite?
Ella:
What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book? 
What inspired you to write this
story, 
BPM: James, introduce us to your new book,
Sellout.
DO
List
One Man, One Camera, One Mission
-- JANKS MORTON is a groundbreaking international and award winning documentarian. As founder of
iYAGO ENTERTAINMENT GROUP, LLC, he states "the company came into existence to reflect both the conscious and the unconscious soul of Black America. 
BPM: Introduce us to your book, Why He Hates You!: How Unreconciled Maternal Anger is Destroying Black Men and
Boys.
The homeless man pushing the cart seemed oblivious to the faulty wheel. With laser like focus he kept one eye on the contents of his mobile home while his other eye surveyed his surroundings - watching out for homeless thieves looking to steal some of his valuables. 
I have always said that better sex, makes for a better marriage. Tips for touching, can be extremely helpful in all kinds of ways. It was said that someone who is in tune with the power of touch could actually cause a woman or man to orgasm by touching only one square inch of their body without even going 'Down There'. This may be hard to believe but as far as medical science is concerned, its absolutely possible.
Community
Discussion:
Ella:
What was the most powerful chapter in the book for you? Was it
emotional for you?
Kia DuPree, a former assistant editor at St. Martins Press, received the Fiction Honor Book Award from the Black Caucus of the American Library Association for her debut, self-published novel, Robbing Peter, in 2005.
Kia's short story, Lost One, was recently included in #1 Essence bestselling author Shannon Holmes' anthology HOOD 2 HOOD, which was released in March 2008. 
Ella: What impact will this book have on the community? 
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About
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Motif
by Teisha Bourne is a story about two best friends that waltz into a deceptive, destructive triangle of lust, love, and betrayal, that tests the boundaries of their life-long friendship, and demolishes the precepts of right and wrong. Summer break is almost over for nineteen-year-old Tiffany Randal and Camisha Simmons who are back home in Memphis from Fisk. Summer break has been a bummer because Camisha has been constantly pining over her recently lost boyfriend. Tiffany has gotten fed up with Camisha's whining and crying. 
Ella: What do you like to do when you're not writing? 
African American Literary Award nominated author, Hazel Mills, knew that she wanted to be a writer from the moment she penned the first words of a poem titled “A Tree” when she was in the third grade. Even though she majored in business at the University of Alabama, writing continued to be her first love.
Ella:
What issue or person inspired you to write this story?
Joan Early became an avid reader at an early age and began her writing career with a first place win in Ebony Magazine's literary contest. She became a member of the Genesis Press family with a January 2009 release,
Look Both Ways, followed by her latest book, Fireflies.
Ella:
Do you write full time? Describe your writing schedule for our readers.
Cassandra Washington is an author and screenwriter. She is a graduate of the University of Central Florida. Her books include “Brown Paper Bag Brothers”, “Love Doesn’t Live Here”, “From A to Z: A Guide to Give to Men Who Honestly Don’t Know or Who Insist on Playing Dumb”, and “Jeremiah Sings the Blues”.
For more information, visit 
Ella:
What issues in today's society have you addressed in the book?
Jordan
Belcher grew up in an inner city neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri, with his
mother and father, and two older brothers. Living below the poverty level,
he was forced to be creative to entertain himself. But as a teen he let go
of his artistry, dropped out of high school and grabbed on to crime. He
went from petty thievery to armed robbery, and a month after he turned 19 he was
arrested and sentenced to 10 years in prison. Behind bars, he started
reading Urban Literature and immediately rediscovered his passion for writing.
Ella:
Urban literature should present a "cautionary tale."
What issues do you bring to the reader's attention?
Join me in welcoming Anna Black,
author of Now You Wanna Come Back, Luck of the Draw and Split Image. Talented and inspiring is the best way to describe this Chicago Native. Now You Wanna Come Back is her debut novel and it has done its duty to deliver a page turning introduction for Anna. She has showed herself to be ready for the literary world with her first release and is anxious to release her second novel Luck of the Draw in April 23, 2010. 
Ella: Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?
Pamela Ridley’s first published piece was a play about the Dred Scott Decision that she wrote in fourth grade. The play was well received by the PTA of Riddick Branch Elementary School.Since purchasing her first computer in 1995, she has written five novels (three of which are published) and several short
stories. Ms. Ridley currently resides in Maryland. 
Keith Walker is a graduate of Texas Wesleyan University where he earned a bachelor’s degree in English. He enjoys reading, poetry, and music of all genres. Keith currently works in administration at one of the city’s largest hospitals. He lives in Fort Worth , Texas with his wife and two children.
Fixin’ Tyrone is Keith’s first book.
Ella:
Tell us a little about your main characters. Who was your favorite? Why?